And they
also know what they need to change and what makes them really healthy and
happy. Immediately after writing or telling me this, actually telling
themselves, it’s so terribly hard to change their life(style) but they try to
do their best in this New Year. I am sure they will not succeed. They stay in
their vicious circle. Not serving themselves and not serving the world around in
the best possible way.
Why do we constantly put off until later what we intuitively know is of the highest importance? Isn’t it
strange you know you live an unhealthy life or lifestyle and to say it’s so
hard to change but you will give it (only) a try? Giving you already a General
Excuse to stay discontent? It only takes one person to change your life. You!
Take a
sincere look at yourself. Where are you in your life? What have your priorities
been up till now and what do you intend doing with the time you have left? Are
you really the best you can be? Is there a need to remain as you are now? Who
do you (only) think you are serving with this dissatisfaction?
In the
West, we are consumed from morning till night by endless activity. We do not
take much time to consider the basic causes of our happiness or suffering. We
imagine doing even more activities or care more, our sense of dissatisfaction
will fade away. But the truth is that many of us continue to feel let down and
more and more frustrated by our contemporary life(style).
Very few
people would say there is nothing worth improving in the way they live and
experience the world. However, some people think their own particular weakness
and conflicting emotions are something rich that contributes to the ‘fullness’
of their lives. They take the point of view their way of living is ‘normal’ or
‘natural’, and that it’s all about accepting ‘human nature’.
Are you
willing to change, do you have the guts to change? Giving it only a try this
year does not bring you any further. So stop with that, go on suffering or
building up even more unhappiness or… just change it. Do it!
From one
of my friends, actually one of my former teachers, I got a story that possible
can help you making the change to start LIVING life. And yes, maybe at first
sight and for a short while it will be hard to let go and you will suffer a bit.
Afterwards you are proud of yourself, you feel free, much better. And not only will
you feel better. You serve the world around you much more as well. If you do
not accept or make the choice for change, you will not grow.
This friend
sent me a story from Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years
working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their
lives. As a witness she recorded their top five regrets in this last weeks of
their lives.
- I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
- I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
- I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
- I wish that I had let myself be happier.
What's
your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before
you die?
Do not do your best to give it a try. Do it!
captijninsight@gmail.com
Do not do your best to give it a try. Do it!
Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight
Captijn Insight: “Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow in life, love, family, business, career and work. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or organization.”
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