The focus
is on the treatment of complaint or disease and you also want answers and
solutions. Seems logical or not ...
I was
recently having a chat and drinking a cup of coffee with a good acquaintance who
lives nearby. He shared with me that he once for a couple of years had a
relationship with a female home doctor. Someone with great knowledge, skills
and above all feeling. Many times at that time he was surprised when she was
the doctor in charge during a nightshift. She sometimes advised people to take
a paracetamol and to see her or their doctor the next day. In other cases, apparently
for him the same situations, she jumped out of bed and hurried to the patient.
In retrospect, it almost always turned out to be the right decision. When he
asked her about it, she always said it was her feeling. Great and, based on his
story, in my eyes really a professional.
Yet she
had something negative about him and her approach of situations, he continued
his story. Besides being bossy, her basic attitude was thinking from a negative
approach. From pessimism, fear, threat and from what could go wrong, instead of
from optimism and trust in what was good and could even become better.
From his study,
experience and background in coaching, he once told her the following story as
an example.
If a
patient comes to you with a disease, then you usually dive into, focus on it,
just out of your professionalism. What would it be like if you listened to that
story and first reacted in a totally different way you are used to so far? For
example, someone has an upset stomach. As a doctor you could say to the patient
(and not just only think): “Your lungs are good, your heart does not show any
problems at first sight. Your eyes are not only beautiful but also very clear.
You can hear me very well. Your body actually looks very good for your age. The
grip of your hand when you gave me a hand is firm. So, in my eyes, basically
are very healthy. And what does not feel good with your stomach?
The way
he told me helped me to nearly laugh out loud. And yet ... yes, trying to
imagine the energy of visiting the doctor was also in a positive way already different
for me. And of course, it is true that most people who go to the doctor with an
ailment actually in general are healthy. A lot of our ‘not feeling well’ has to
do with our mind. Be sure I do not want to play down health treatments with
this blog neither I am a doctor.
My friend
said that his girlfriend that time also had to laugh heartily about the story.
She decided to give it a chance and started to work with it. And directly it
had visible results on her patients. During her yearly ‘fresh-up’ meetings with
colleagues, she shared her story and experiences.
Indeed,
part of looking at your work and the world around you and how you deal with it is
in your nature. Has to do with your character. Or actually… not at all.
His story
that he further shared with me was that she had learned it by herself without even
knowing it. In the family in which she grew up, things were always looked at out
of a negative approach and fear. From threat, danger and risk. She got used to
this approach and did not know other ways to deal with. So now it was a matter of
unlearning. Something that is really very possible. Not easy but possible.
Fortunately, I don't know many days in my life with
negative thinking so far.
And in
the land of the smile in which I can live here, in my eyes that is an extra
profit.
There is
(almost) always something positive, another possible turn you sometimes not
immediately see, on the road that currently seems negative.
Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)
email: captijninsight@gmail.com
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