Tantra… encounter life as it is meant to be

A couple of years ago one of our guests became very emotional doing, bare feet, a walking exercise in soft grass at his temporary comfort zone. At home he was not allowed to walk bare feet. Without even thinking about this first, walking in the soft grass wasn’t just a sensation for him. It filled up his whole being. He felt totally released by expanding his awareness when the grass massaged his feet and his feet massaged the grass. The connection with the earth. It was a kind of understanding the body, mind and soul connection again.

At that time he took a period time, doing a Villa-Asia program, to shake up his live a bit. A personal ‘pit-stop’. Taking a road for himself less travelled and moved beyond the confines of his well-known comfort zone at home. Inviting him to work on personal mastery and to explore and realize his true potential.

And without even knowing or adapting on the experience, his unconscious mind immediately woke up to give him this, conscious, wake-up call. A deep inner happy feeling of aliveness, soaking up life.

Back home he discussed, changed the situation and felt much more connected / rooted and happier. Where a pleasant experience can be able of…

Most of us live at such a frenetic pace that the quality of awareness has eroded. Internal and external influences - responsible for change of lifestyle, ‘protection’ barriers, body veils and armouring - make things even worse. Walking around as a kind of Russian Matryoshka doll. And though we seek in this covers or “garments” the freedom of privacy and safety, most of the time they work deep inside as a personal harness and a chain. Covering the possibility to listen to our deep inner personal requests. 

How to soak up life again? That question brings me to Tantra, which I am currently studying to get my certificate as a teacher. And please, reading this blog, understand Tantra beyond the stereotype “concept” that Tantra just is about sex. Buddhist Tantra practices most of the time have nothing to do with sexual practices. They are a divine means to enlightenment through discovering the unique identity. So, Tantra offers many different layers/options.

The word Tantra comes from the ancient Sanskrit words tanoti (which means “to expand”) and travati (which means “liberation”). This implies that you can be liberated by expanding your consciousness, your quality of awareness.

It is an adventurous journey of again discovering your senses, energy and sensations as they are meant to be. An awakening of senses (and what they are able to provoke) and energy. An interweaving of the energies of many levels of consciousness from the ordinary to the most intense. A (spiritual) path for integrating body, mind and soul connection.

Exploring this can be a revelation called fully living (again). Bringing greater sense of aliveness to your existence.

There still are ways to really ‘connect’ in a more and more disconnecting world. You only have to take a pit-stop and start with yourself. Tantra is one of the ways to encounter a free life in real connection.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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My outside world is getting smaller and smaller. My inner world, on the other hand, is growing.

The world is getting more and more “insane” my sister and I noted in a conversation recently. And of course, that is, let me speak for myself, my opinion (maybe it has only to do with me). Perhaps it has always been this way and now we hear things more quickly. And whether everything we hear is true or has only been distorted by politics, power and the media, that too remains a guess.

I sometimes wonder if people ever agree with something. We complain, demonstrate, whine as if we (often afterwards) know everything better. Not to mention respect for others. World leaders who behave even less than as small children towards each other and an outside world that laughs at that.

Today's world is all about buying, technology and investing. About money and power. That makes the economy healthy and people so often sick. What do you mean progress? Ask nature.

And all those wonderful friendships, network contacts and family relationships that we have and show on social media, when it really matters, often turn out to be very thin. After all, deep below the surface, in most cases it ultimately revolves around "I".

And yes, that those contacts "dilute" is certainly also because of me. After all, it is my choice, for example, to live abroad. I feel home. But sure, it is "far" from my former world. Or to no longer be on social media and to follow the news, flooded by advertisements, as little as possible. Too much and too great a continuous flow of negativity.

The world around me is also getting smaller and to be honest it also feels a bit lonelier (but certainly not alone). It is partly the result of my own choices.

The photo accompanying this blog is of a painting “Inner World” by Artist Jaswant. He says he meditates by painting and paints by meditating and that the inspiration for his work is the miracle of life. Those statements resonate with me. I recognize a lot of similarities in the totally changed lifestyle that I have been able to choose and live.

Although, or perhaps because, my outside world is getting smaller, my inner world is growing. Growth through inner exploration, admiration of nature as a teacher. Time and attention for what I am doing, the love ones in my life and for myself. Grateful for and deepening through what is made by my hands, what talents I can and may share, and what insights I discover of the miracle of life.

And that certainly has a reason ...

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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You have to learn to live with it? No way!

I still remember how my father nearly only worked with patients in his massage practice who had been advised by the doctors; “You have to learn to live with it”. It made him energetic. And not only he, but certainly also his patients who entered his world received new energy and improved visibly from his approach.

His world, another world. Not a world that I would call alternative. A world of genuine attention (time for his patients), new possibilities, energy exchange, movement and a change of mindset. Not that the Western medical approach did not appeal to him or that he contradicted it. Far from it. Doctors were almost "holy" to him.

He literally opened up a new world of different methods and solutions and especially hope and faith. And no, that wasn't deceiving anyone. After all, everything comes to an end so also your life. He was that realistic and you have to be as well. With and through his approach and influence, it was indeed a different, better, quality of life for his patients than they had experienced up to that moment.

He soon realized that the statement “You just have to learn to live with it” meant nothing more than that in the Western medical system, the Western world and culture, the solutions had run out and the toolbox to be able to do something else simply was empty. But that was just the toolbox from that world. And that was not an end, but a beginning to open doors to other worlds. Not new, but actually very old other. After all, you are free to make a different choice.

He knew the reasons why the body could become attractive, literally a breeding ground, for disease and viruses. Such as mental and emotional stress, negativity (what about the continuous flow of negative information that you are exposed to every day), physical trauma, excessive use of alcohol, smoking or drugs, unhealthy food and especially being inactive. If there is no balance between all those things, your body becomes a magnet for diseases.

It all came to my mind when a friend here in Thailand sent me a presentation on empowerment.

If you are in the Western World then you go along with that system. Nothing wrong with that of course. But with the word "cancer", for example, have you ever considered that this is a very Western term that comes from Western culture and is linked to Western research methods and treatment methods?

A term that almost immediately evokes fear. It sucks energy out of you and that actually makes your body even sicker. It often makes you too tired to look in other worlds for solutions. After all, the standard approach is chemotherapy and radiation and if you deviate from them, the outside world will "help" you to tell you that you are crazy. Another negative impulse.

An approach and treatment in a world like India is different, and one in China too. There are so many ways and solutions

My father's world was different. From his studies and experiences, he knew those "distant" other possibilities. In addition, he was very adept at getting people to change their mental limitations in their thinking.

He knew that systems from other worlds worked and that it just had to do with how those systems resonate with your mind. How you really believed in it and how strong you were to sometimes be able to row against the influence of your Western outside world. The collaboration between your body and your mind is unique and powerful. With his knowledge and expertise he was a master at stimulating that process sincerely.

The world and culture in which you live is too small to assume that you (in most cases) have to learn to live with your ailment.

There are so many different worlds with possibilities on our planet. They only have to resonate with you. A matter of empowering. 

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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More and more early (bird) yoga and meditation spectators

Every morning around 6 AM I start with meditation and around one hour of yoga. Happy to have the labyrinth now for it to use as well. 

We are about nine month in the process of creating things at our site in Surin, Thailand. First disturbing the nature and animal world a little bit. Animals are curious and come to see what's all going on. A bit scared at first sight but... things are changing. 

They happen to understand we come to live in and join their environment and are not there to scare them or to be afraid of. So, more and more they seem to accept and feel more comfortable coming to have a closer look. 

For us it's really nice to be spectators of their acting. But actually, so early in the morning, it is nice to see I get more and more 'friends' looking at me doing yoga. A wonderful nature experience. 

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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Petite Chartres Labyrinth in Surin, Thailand

Proud to have the opportunity to make an announcement in this week’s blog.

October 4^th, nascent Pyramid House Thailand in Surin is home of a Petite-Chartres Labyrinth.

Together with my girlfriend I created this labyrinth. For me the fifth in my life.
A labyrinth is an archetype, a divine imprint. Walking it you are rediscovering a long-forgotten mystical tradition. Labyrinths offer you the opportunity to walk to that place within yourself where the rational merges with the intuitive and the spiritual is reborn.

Although we hope to stay healthy to go on with the process of building our pyramids for a couple of years, the labyrinth is already there. 

Many people already asked us why one of the first steps in our building process is building the labyrinth. This has everything to do with getting and keeping the right energy at our site, the use of it for our daily yoga and meditation exercises, and future attraction and visibility of our place.

Since personal development courses, one in Chartres (France) around 14 years ago for my past job, I feel a special connection and invitation in working with labyrinths. Lots of wonderful personal and guest experiences I have so far working with the classic and medieval labyrinths I have built at the health resort in Mae Rim, Chiang Mai, Thailand. 

Although we build the labyrinth at our private location, we invite visitors, after making an appointment, to get the wonderful experience of the labyrinth as well and/or do Samatha and Vipassana meditation. We welcome them to our labyrinth as walking meditation, a spiritual practice of simply an opportunity to calm the mind and enjoy peace, quiet and reflection. 

We are very willing, if wanted, to give the necessary background information and guidelines for walking and use.

To stimulate this, October 6^th already, our labyrinth is shown online at the World Wide Labyrinth Locator (for a link click here). 

We also, will start in the near future with Labyrinth (Kundalini) yoga, singing bowl sessions, connective dance and working with the labyrinth in combination with our campfire-place.

Happy to share this part of our process is ready for use now.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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Pay less, less hassle, less blah, blah, blah and yet… keep borrowing, get into debt, with all the misery that entails. You imprison yourself.

I don't know what it is but every day, despite my blockers, cleaners and virus scanner on my laptop, my spam box on my gmail is filling up. And yes, of course with all kinds of nonsensical marketing.

90% Is about taking out personal loans and paying less. As if life is all about buying more or new to become and stay happy. We have to show the outside world that we can go with the masses.

Where I live, it seems to be the case that more than 90% of, for example, cars, scooters, mopeds and even cell phones have been financed. Installment and personal loans. High and low interest rates. Most people are head over heels in debt and don't seem to want to understand that you have less to spend every month because of… your payments you need to do extra. They choose that beautiful and sometimes shiny show to the outside world with things that you really can't afford and in many cases actually don't need at all.

As a child I learned from my parents that if you didn't have the money for something you couldn't buy it. And if you still wanted to buy something not having the money yet, you start with saving first. Borrowing or buying on installment (with interest)… that was not an option. Yes, only for a house.

Do not live "beyond your means" I was invariably told. And that temporary extra discount as a attraction, indicates that you actually always had to pay way too much and therefore simply got ripped off. After all, a lot money is still being made during the "sale" with discounts sometimes up to 70% or more.

Almost every day I delete all those stupid "offers", "just for me", from my spam box. Why should they stay there for 30 days to be automatically deleted?

Let others earn from your misery in the end? Temporary "fun" and end up tightening the reins for a long time? Jail yourself financially for some (short) pleasure? You're not crazy, aren't you? No financial debt is much more beneficial and ultimately feels (for me) much better.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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Titles often get in the way of relationships with others

In a reflection of a story, someone from America shared this quote a couple of weeks ago. It made me think and for me it is true.

Indeed, I also was happy and proud getting (some call it earning) titles in front of and after my name. Actually, they are/were work/job/business related. In my ‘home’ country, The Netherlands, we are a bit familial, quickly we call people by their first name.

I remember one of my first visits to Germany where a lady in a vegetable store was named “Frau Doktor” (Lady doctor). I thought by myself… what is this? Respect is a good thing but aren't there boarders? This lady, just like me, was only shopping. Why to call her Frau Doktor in the vegetable shop in her free time?

I also see it on business cards. People create the nicest titles to present themselves. Last week I got a business card from a person in Europe who presented himself as ‘President’ of his company. Checking that company, he was the only employee of it. It made me think but this nice show often works in the world.

With a title you, wanted or unwanted, show your ‘status’. Calling yourself president of your sole proprietorship for sure is a wanted one to show yourself important. Actually something to laugh about. Being a professor and being called professor (during work) is just a normal work-related thing. And even in a work relation titles create distance many times. 

Out of my own experience I also can say they attract people. For them it is nice to share with their environment they are part of your ‘network’. You never know it can bring them higher up. They ‘like’ you because of your title(s) and/or position but not because of the person you really and truly are.

I am member of an Expats Club here in Thailand. Most of the many members are retired and started to live here in Thailand to enjoy the last part of their life. Several members still want to be called for instance Dr.. I once asked a member who I also sometimes meet in another club about the background he still wants to be called by his title because for me it creates distance. Big eyes of him watching me...

In real, true and strong relationship with others, it is not about titles or position but about the connection between people who they truly and really are. That creates proximity and lasting connection.  

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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Cancer Treatment and Quality of Life

No, knock on wood, but till today, as far as I know, I am fortunately still in good health.

Last week many stories and experiences came together and I had a conversation with my partner about this subject. And what I'm sharing here is just a personal view that I have, with respect to other opinions.

About two weeks ago I removed large amounts of weeds here on our land. It made the gravel road on the site visible again and, above all, wider. A tough job. I once learned from a good friend that hoeing seems nice, but that you have to remove the deep roots in the soil to really be off weeds for a while. No sooner said than done and that was a tough job and heavy sweating. And ... succeeded (I thought).

What struck me was that various weed species spread like a kind of satellites underground uncontrollably and sometimes spread abnormally. But I succeeded in clearing the weeds with roots and clean the soil. And to be honest, it felt good after work. It looked neat and tidy again.

For less than a week! After a rain shower the weeds returned in full. That good feeling was short lived.

What does this have to do with the title "Cancer Treatment and Quality of Life"?

I received an email from the wife of a school (childhood) friend that her husband had died of a malignant brain tumor. In my family, friends and circle of acquaintances there are various people who suffer from health problems (often forms of cancer). And in the course I am taking recently, there was also talk again about dying.

Although we usually don't want to talk about it, dying is something linked to being born. No one can escape whether you are rich or poor or whatever and whoever you think you are proposing. And you can't take anything with you. After all, everything you 'own' is only temporarily borrowed. 

That weeds reminded me of cancer and the treatment of it as I know from many stories. And fortunately, there is more and more knowledge and more and more possibilities to slow down or even stop cancer in some cases. But, maybe hard to say, you're going to die (although maybe not from cancer if you would have (had)).

I know and hear many stories about the often very difficult treatments against cancer. The daily amounts of medicines, radiation treatments and also Chemotherapy. Many of those treatments are suffering severely. Everything aimed at fighting or slowing down the cancer and temporary extending your life. Many times it's the same as with those weeds with cancer. I still remember the treatments of my mother and also of my far too young cousin (21) who unfortunately could not win their fights even following their severe treatments.

My oldest brother also died of cancer. He decided not to fight and not to make use of the pills and chemotherapy advised by the doctors in order to stretch his life for a few more months (in misery). His consideration was what quality of life there would be and why and for what reason you (still) want to follow these treatments. Isn't it a surrender to your natural end of your life path called death? He passed away six weeks later.

In the conversation with my girlfriend it was about that quality of life. Everyone is running out of time. Let’s face it. And the older we get (or want to continue working), the less of that quality time remains. Our wish is to live that time as well as possible, in a high quality. And in many cases, this is no longer even possible due to health problems. What is your quality of life? Live NOW and sometimes worry less about things that life is not really all about.

I share that view of my brother. And the way I look at it now, that cup of medicines, radiation and chemo therapy, if it would come to that for me, may pass.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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Beautiful nature more and more destroyed

My daughter Carlien has been living and working in Perth Australia for several years now.

Last weekend her boyfriend had rented a camper and they went out together along the coastline towards the North of Australia. Last Wednesday she sent me several photos that they had taken during their trip. Dolphins, whales, beautiful scenery, birds. I am posting a few of them with this article.

How beautiful nature is and how we all help to overthrow that same nature.

Record after record is broken with higher temperatures, floods and natural disasters. Nature strikes back. Sad how in our 'me', 'get', 'have' and 'disposable' society we don't much care much about future generations, it seems.

The current worldwide virus is weakening a bit in most countries and you can also see that in the increase of air pollution. We actually learn nothing at all and pick up the thread as much as possible as it was. With nowadays 7,800,000,000 people as world population, we go on ruining our planet. Whether our lifestyle will ultimately bring the most happiness and if much beautiful nature will be left for generations after us is the question for me.

That beauty of nature cannot be fooled ...

 

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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What was and am I actually terribly spoiled

Just in front of me a scooter, with a woman and two children on it, turns. Nobody wears a helmet. However, a mouth mask. Funny to see when we talk about safety.

A turtle is crossing the road. They had seen it and picked it up. Mother put it in the basked in front. A delicacy and for sure it will be a kind of Christmas dinner. Sure, not a daily dinner routine.

A few weeks ago, the three of us (without masks) on the scooter (Dog Kadhow without helmet but we with) also saw one crossing. We helped him / her to a safe area.

In the late evening, almost night, people from the village walk through the fields with headlamps. Looking for toads, rats and in the trees snakes. They are sold on the market and also eaten themselves. It is a small source of income ...

People here live in different ways. However, houses are different and the way people live life in them is different as well. Actually, not comparable and it seems that living is not really a priority. More it is the shelter against sun and rain. When I look around me, it does not really show to me, seen from my culture, a way of 'feeling home'. But I am just wrong. It’s just my opinion because of my background. People may feel much more at home here than in my former home country for instance. Generally, not a luxury way. And yes, a TV is part of it. The car seems more important than the house. And how the house looks like or the level of maintenance. In many cases not really a priority. And whether or not it only has to do with "being poor"? I wonder.

After living here for more than eight years, you can assume that my holiday feeling is somewhat over.

And living in the countryside, almost no foreigner to be seen here, really brings you into contact with the true culture and way of life of the people here.

I am less and less surprised. More and more it is "normal" while, when I think about it, it is not at all normal for me.

"Holy cow" which was and am I actually spoiled. And whether that is better, I dare not say.

I also feel at home here. And yes, we live differently from the average resident here and our plans for the future with our building process also look different.

Here too, the Internet shows how you can buy happiness. You must have more. In fact, it is destroying this fantastic culture where the older generation still settles for little, knows how to relax and enjoy the basic things and the family feeling that life is really about.

Great to be able to get this insight from that mother with her children who is picking up a turtle ...

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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Touching and touching but 'not touching'

In 2016 I already wrote a blog about touching (“The powerof touching. Encounter jewels of aliveness and energy in your existence..”). Doing a course at the moment to become a certified Tantra teacher, touching again gets a lot of attention and brings even more insight for me.

There is a lot to discover in relation to touching. Physical aspects and sensations of feeling differences in temperature, structure, size, softness, etcetera, but, on the other hand and with an even deeper meaning the energetic sensation. The connection or flow of life-force energy.

Actually, we touch with all our senses and all the information together brings an emotion and the quality of connection formed by our mind.

Doing this course now, again made clear to me that there are different ways of touching. Real touching connection and touching ‘not touching’. And you cannot lie about it because people (especially women) feel it.

As an example, you just have to walk in a walking street and see (and even feel) the sensations of people walking hand in hand. A young (or elderly) couple in love or people who hold each other’s hand but are not really interested at all in each other anymore. Holding a kind of dead end. Touching, not touching.

Doing my course to become an actor, many years ago, we learned over one hundred ways to say ‘Yes’. Around five in a way you actually express ‘No’. It’s just the way you say it.

And with touching it is the same but… you cannot act or fool somebody even if you think you are a professional in it. It is not only the way you touch. The life-force energy that is involved in touching makes the difference. It shows, intuitively and totally right, if the expressed actions of touching of the other person is the right one or just only fake. Something, by the way,  that says a lot about the person you try to connect with.

And maybe women are more sensitive for it then men as my Tantra course proposes. But men, it’s just nature, also have this or can develop (and do not forget animals who are maybe the most sensitive for it). You feel (experience) the difference between real connection and unreal (dead end) connection. Also, in the art of loving.

Some last words.

In Asia I live in a culture not really used to touching. And at the moment because of that worldwide virus a ‘distance society’ is created.

People think technique and all kind of social media will keep us connected. In a way that’s true. On the other hand, we need to understand that any life-force energy flow, needed to feel real, deep and high-quality personal connection, will be more and more lost. Putting at stake the quality of friendships and relationships.

Awareness, right intentions, time for each other without disturbances, focus,  being relaxed an touching are elements that truly help to make them stronger. Maybe Tantra can help.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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A divorce ritual. Great idea.

On YouTube I just saw the free movie “Just Breath”. I thought a thriller but that turned out differently. A really catchy theme that appealed to me in relation to divorce issues.

The movie takes you into the behavioral and parental problems of a daughter from a broken family. The focus is on her and actually, at the end of the film that is said literally, it is not her fault at all, but her parents are the source.

The reason it appealed to me so much was that we (my former wife and I) too, out of love, were blessed and able to bring two fantastic kids into this world. They are world citizens now. Our love affair turned into hate and this movie also shows what and how that looks like. Communication not possible anymore because of a deep-rooted and two-party feed past. Children who, especially when one of the parents falls in love with someone else again, and in the movie the new couple being even pregnant again, totally lost direction and felt lonely.

It is only normal that children get lost a little. And the easiest thing is to point at them where that finger should actually be pointing at Mom and Dad.

A more than sensible new partner in the movie, who knows how to handle it despite all the difficulties. Hats off and a lot to learn from (also by me). What a sensible and resilient sweet woman.

Her idea of ​​going for a divorce ritual is fascinating and effective. Children need to know that they were born out of love and have a voice in the whole process, however the age they may have.

OSHO said it all already. You can thank each other for the time together because you both opened new doors for each other. New visions of life that you could never have opened on your own. Love has no beginning or end. If you know how to love, you also know how to separate. That is not in anger, not in rage, not with a grudge, not with any complaint, but with tremendous gratitude, with great love, with thankfulness in the heart.

“Just Breath” a good mirror with a lot of lessons for when you are in a process of divorce or when you have completed such a process. And that divorce ritual at the end of the film ... not a crazy thought. Also to let your children know that there was once love between each other and the divorce was not meant to hurt your children but to allow freedom (to breath) in ongoing love.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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No time to work. Where did I ever find this time?

Recently I said that I can't imagine where I ever found the time to work. Days, weeks and months really fly by.

In the past, work weeks of over 60 hours have been normal for me. Total madness when I look back on it now. The saying and the question; "Do you live to work or do you work to live?" I totally went to that live to work. I just didn't notice it myself.

And when I look back on it in a financial sense, as the "boss" of the organization, I think that many of my staff went home with more salary per working hour than I did. They adhered to the 36 hours and usually also enjoyed good private and family life.

And going on ‘with your tongue on your shoes’ until your retirement age? I laugh about it now. And yes, that is a lot of financial sacrifice. Happy, so far still until now, in good health. Being able to change the course that living (instead of working) is called to be quite a bit.

I have been living without a work schedule and agenda for over eight years now. In fact, I haven't spent time on social media for years. You would think plenty of time. Well… not. No stress indeed, but always well-filled days with things that I generally still (or again) love to do. We do what the day invites us to do and are now quite flexible. We have time. Doing nothing for a day? Still not got that present ;).

And that saying with that question… It is completely off the track. I no longer live to work. I no longer work to live. I Live. Something for which I am more than grateful that I can do this like I do.

An insight in retrospection is that I robbed myself and my family too much of time that life is really about. Great to be able to experience that insight not totally too late.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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