After a short while I got a response from her and she
asked me two questions;
# Let me know "missing me so much" can make
you happy?
# Let me know "missing me so much" can make
you live more in the "here and now"?
Sure I can understand at first sight what I wrote down
can feel and look a bit strange. And thinking deeper about those two questions
gave me and her a deeper understanding of the underlying meaning. And I really
want to share that insights because most of the time we connect missing someone
with a kind of sad feelings and/or unwholesome thoughts.
After my mom passed a way, to honor her, I started to
do courses in the evening hours to become an actor. My mom was an actress and I
just I wanted to discover if she shared that gems with me as well. People who
know me will get a smile on their face because they will immediately tell me I
do not have to discover that because they met my inner Jester already many
times before that courses.
One of the things I learned is that there are several
ways to deal with feelings and so also to act and express. My courses made me
clear that we behave, act, respond out of basic elements. Earth, Water, Fire, and
Ether. You can see them as underlying energies.
Out of for example the element Fire, you can use the
same energy to create a happy feeling (you spread your energy for instance by
laughing, bright shining eyes, openness for connection) but also to get a sad
feeling (you keep the energy inside yourself, feel down, do not want to
connect, maybe even tears in your eyes).
A warm, kind, friendship and for sure a relationship has
to do with connection in many ways. A kind of holistic connection. Emotional,
mental, spiritual, environmental (energy giving) and also physical. Interaction
of senses with yourself and in relation to other persons as we learn in tantric
work. In the present time I think there is a huge lack of this intense
connections some people are even afraid. But…that’s beside this story.
“Missing you makes me happy” ? Because the connection
experience and energy that once appeared in a natural way, even not being
physically close together now, gives me the energy to be even more sparkling,
attentive, open to give and to receive. The sad sides (the other energy use of
the elements) so far did not show up. So do not affect me because it does not
appear (yet).
The second thing is I know and feel there will be a
time, I do not know when, we will be close together for a short while again. Looking
forward to that moment gives me a kind feeling of longing. And that feeling
again is a wonderful energy.
In relation to the second question I already gave the
answer in between the lines.
This positive energy of “missing you” does not make me
sad so far but on the contrary gives me positive energy. Energy to be more
open, more alert, more connected. It’s a kind of feeling of excitement. And
believe it or not… this connect me even more with the here and now.
How wonderful to understand even more to use the
energy of the elements in a stimulating way. Free available energy to create an
even higher level of peace of mind (happiness).
Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight
Captijn Insight: “Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow in life, love, family, business, career and work. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or organization.”
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