Last week
I was confronted quite intensely with two life stories of people. They are sad,
violent and also risky. And from my practice those stories are absolutely not
isolated. Many people act their lives and don't even notice it anymore.
They show
a beautiful exterior to "the" or "their" world. Continue to
hide the inside and not want to touch it anymore. An ongoing and energy-consuming
way to hide their grief. A way to (still) survive...
They act
so well that they even think the outside world doesn't notice that something is
going on with them.
The first
7 to around 12 years of your life determine your future life behavior. You get
intense impressions that are related to your family situation, attention, love,
culture, religion, etc .. And if you experience unpleasant things in it,
something that was particularly evident in those two stories that I spoke
about, then you are so smart that you develop a way (lifestyle) so that you are
bothered as little as possible by them.
And that
behavior determines the rest of your life. It has become your survival
strategy.
In the
stories I was told, for example, that was mainly aimed at closing / armoring emotions.
Become a specialist in a specific field with which you cause a stir and where
people go for your profession and not for you as a person. And so, I can go on
and on. All of life has become a play of running away from yourself. Show you
in the armor that you have fitted yourself.
What is
unfortunate is that the survival mechanism that you once taught yourself during
adulthood is usually no longer needed. You can leave those protective layers
that often rest heavily on your shoulders at home. You can throw off that armor
and show the beautiful person who is still hiding in you.
In that
situation you open up to let your life mission flow and especially to be
yourself. You start flourishing.
I talked
about risky. The risk lies in that if at any time you can no longer play the
role that you have taught yourself for whatever reason (for example, you quit
your job in which you could hide). Chances are that your world will collapse
because you have never learned to accept your real self. And although you do
not want to confront yourself, it still happens.
Not wrong
and certainly not a weakness at all to find a specialist to offer a safe and
helping hand in the process of unfolding. Somebody strong enough to deal with
you.
The
result will be that you will finally live and find out that you have put
yourself in the closet for many years for nothing…
Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)
email: captijninsight@gmail.com
Foto blog:
Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.
Foto blog:
Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.
No comments:
Post a Comment