Having to make a play of your life to forget the troubles of the past

Most people don't even realize they have made a play of their lives. They have adopted a lifestyle to forget and hide the past.

Last week I was confronted quite intensely with two life stories of people. They are sad, violent and also risky. And from my practice those stories are absolutely not isolated. Many people act their lives and don't even notice it anymore.

They show a beautiful exterior to "the" or "their" world. Continue to hide the inside and not want to touch it anymore. An ongoing and energy-consuming way to hide their grief. A way to (still) survive...

They act so well that they even think the outside world doesn't notice that something is going on with them.

The first 7 to around 12 years of your life determine your future life behavior. You get intense impressions that are related to your family situation, attention, love, culture, religion, etc .. And if you experience unpleasant things in it, something that was particularly evident in those two stories that I spoke about, then you are so smart that you develop a way (lifestyle) so that you are bothered as little as possible by them.

And that behavior determines the rest of your life. It has become your survival strategy.

In the stories I was told, for example, that was mainly aimed at closing / armoring emotions. Become a specialist in a specific field with which you cause a stir and where people go for your profession and not for you as a person. And so, I can go on and on. All of life has become a play of running away from yourself. Show you in the armor that you have fitted yourself.

What is unfortunate is that the survival mechanism that you once taught yourself during adulthood is usually no longer needed. You can leave those protective layers that often rest heavily on your shoulders at home. You can throw off that armor and show the beautiful person who is still hiding in you.

In that situation you open up to let your life mission flow and especially to be yourself. You start flourishing.

I talked about risky. The risk lies in that if at any time you can no longer play the role that you have taught yourself for whatever reason (for example, you quit your job in which you could hide). Chances are that your world will collapse because you have never learned to accept your real self. And although you do not want to confront yourself, it still happens.

Not wrong and certainly not a weakness at all to find a specialist to offer a safe and helping hand in the process of unfolding. Somebody strong enough to deal with you.

The result will be that you will finally live and find out that you have put yourself in the closet for many years for nothing…

It doesn't have to be too late to stop acting.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

email: captijninsight@gmail.com 

Foto blog: 

http://franscaptijnhisworld.blogspot.com

Building blog:
https://pyramidhousethailand.blogspot.com 

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.