Friday, December 25, 2020

What do I want from life? (2)

A sequel to the blog from two weeks ago. What do you really want from life? You deprive yourself if you allow yourself to be limited in that question by what the world around you might think of you. By the way, do you really know that, or are these thoughts just and only the performances you make in your head?
 
If you go deeply into that question, really take the time for it, then you can discover that people individually may answer that question different, but that the essence is the same for everyone.
You cannot find the answer in worldly things or in outer conditions. You cannot find absolute fulfillment of your life in the things of this world. Not even in status, position or fame. Life is not, not for anyone at all, only positive and fun. Only "social" media allow you to see this false world of people. A delusional world that is misleading and actually reflects ego gratification. The earth is a school of life, I once read. In my eyes true. And you can only experience positive things if you also know the negative sides. It is the duality in life.
 
Those same essences that you will find are; You want to live (you don't want to die), and you want happiness (bliss, no worry or suffering).
 
In many cases you have your own "free" choice as far as that happiness is concerned. And yes, that entails the "risk" that you may fall outside of "the group" as I actually wrote at the beginning of this second blog part. Do you have the courage and guts to deviate, to be different, to make choices that matter to you personally (it is your life after all). And no, that's not selfish. If you are not good about yourself, in your life, how can you be there optimally for others?
 
And as for that dying. We prefer not to talk about it knowing that it is part of our life package. Nobody can escape it. We have divorced ourselves from the process of death and see it as an end point or disappearance. Cemeteries and urns help us to soften that feeling of disappearance. Generations after us have less and less with those former situations, and with those cemeteries and urns. I remember several cemeteries that are still "deserted" and completely unkempt.
 
And for that fight against death, we have created quite a lot. I just heard an IC doctor say that the IC units in our hospitals are the most expensive units to fight against death (and disease).
By the way, I don't really like the term "fighting" (diseases) and all the medications and energy consumption that come with it. A kind of at war with yourself. Our body has enormous self-healing energy that you can stimulate in many other ways than with medicines, radiation treatments and certainly not by fighting.
 
I have often written in my blogs about my experiences with death during my previous work in crises and disaster management. In very visual terms, when someone is dead, you still see the empty shell, the packaging, in which that person once lived. The soul is out, gone.
The death notice of my oldest brother Fons had the, for me touching, headline:
“If they tell you I'm dead, don't believe them.
If they show you my dead body
then know that you are looking at an illusion. ”
 
The same IC doctor told from his practical experiences that death is only a moment of transformation. An expansion outside that cover, that packaging. A situation in which people, from a kind of deeper personal loneliness, for the first time in their lives feel totally accepted in the universe that embraces us. Far from an end point.
 
And based on those experiences and this philosophy, in light of the primary question of these two blogs, wouldn't it be great if we didn't wait for that transformation point? Why not start now? After all, we are already part of the universe.
 
Be totally accepted as you are and totally accept others as they are in true love.
 
Not many reasons anymore to worry much about everything that is happening with and around us and to be more aware of feeling and accepting accepted.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

Friday, December 18, 2020

End-of-year wish

We are in December of the year again.
 
A month of even more stress and (online)buying temporary happiness?
Or just a month, just as nature shows us in the West, to take a rest, perhaps to reflect, learn, get closer to yourself and prepare for a new year that is coming again in which you may and can share the best of yourself?
 
We hope, in the coming year, that you can choose things in your life that will make you sustainable happiest and create long term bliss, and that you will not be led by feelings of guilt, panic and fear created by the world around us.
 
Merry Christmas and a happy new year.
 
Frans Captijn, Phatsamon
&
Kadhow






Friday, December 11, 2020

What do I want from life? (1)

We have taken a break in our building process for the past two weeks. Enjoying the beautiful nature in Chiang Mai and surroundings again. And automatically more time for other things and some personal deepening.

For example, I listened to a presentation that resonated and invited you to go deeper into it. The key question in it was: “What do I want from life?”.

I have long since discovered that it has nothing to do with money, position, reputation, an expensive car, etc .. Regardless of what you achieve in life, it is never enough. I laugh more and more about it. These are the worldly things that when you look deeply at them may sometimes make you temporarily happy.

For example, Christmas is nearby again. The essence of that celebration can be sought further and further. It is a period that has degenerated into mainly buying and the cultivation of desires for things that you actually do not need at all. Do those gadgets really make you happy for a long time? A drone in the sky that kindly asks you to go home because it is too busy in the city with shopping people is actually telling you, you need to stop for a while from your continuous temporary happiness satisfaction.

But back to that important question. To answer that question for yourself, you have to go further and deeper than all those superficial things in which we all usually get stuck. It is good to think about, maybe especially at the end of this year again, not having a mouth full of teeth at the end of your life if you wonder whether you actually lived or whether you may have missed something essential.

To be continued.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

Friday, December 4, 2020

We have lost our way and reason a bit in this time of fear hypnosis

The last ten months enough distance between people has been created, working from home has been sufficiently introduced and the economy of online services and ordering has grown faster than ever predictably. The street scene has changed with scooters that bring food to your home and we are told from the air via drones that it is getting a bit too busy in the city and the shops are closing. Kind request to return home peacefully. You might think it is going well. We are making progress.

For over ten months already, not a day goes by or fear and guilt feelings are instilled against a virus through several channels. And as marketing teaches, the power of the message is in repetition. Especially if you bring it the way it is ongoing presented. A way and word choice (superlative) that has a huge impact on people. Anxious and fierce concepts that cause stress, anxiety, depression and also anger. Practices that exhaust mentally, emotionally and physically. We are increasingly accepting all kinds of suggestions as "truth" and that is hypnosis. And, do not think conspiracy, I can no longer imagine that all this happens "by coincidence".
And the worst part is, we will not be able to resolve it for the time being because we are no longer (or cannot be) open to other points of view, ideas and reason.

We have lost the way and the ratio, at least in my opinion. Every now and then I get to hear that someone in the street of friends or acquaintances has died of the virus. And, mind you, that is terrible. But why does this continue to be in the spotlight and does it seem that death from Cancer (which we as I recently saw very nicely call "New Formations") or from cardiovascular disease with death rates dozens of times higher is accepted without much attention?

Wake up, become curious and discover the true values ​​in your life more deeply. Do all of today's stories serve your personal emotional life or confuse you? You still have a personal choice.

Turn off those channels as I called them in the beginning, such as "social" media and news, and choose the things in your life that make you happiest. And personal, face-to-face contact with people, touching each other, and that sincere hug are often part of that.
Time to be open (again) for them.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.




Friday, November 27, 2020

Sounds of the autumn.

The seasons in Thailand are different from, for example, Europe. Here we have the rainy season and the dry season. The dry season is divided into a cool and a hot period. And that actually brings three istead of four seasons; the rainy season (June-October), the cool dry season (November-February) and the hot dry season (March-May). And yet you can also find spring, summer, autumn and winter in those three.

Yesterday, autumn and the cool dry season, as every day I walked blissfully in the forest again. I try to change tracks many times with Kadhow. Yesterday it was at a place in Chiang Mai that feels great for me. The energy feels wonderful there. The sound of crispy leaves with every step he and I take.

Kadhow stopped and looked around. I followed his lead. Total silence or not. No not at all. A gentle breeze, beautiful colors, tremendous big leaves of teak trees and there was a sound that could be heard like rain in the forest or like a crackling wood fire. Birds singing different melodies in peace and in harmony. It was more than a beautiful meditation to be aware of the sounds of autumn.

The "rain" sound came from the tumbling dry leaves, in the sunlight, falling high from the trees to the bottom of dry predecessors, which formed a sort of drum.
Sounds from far, up close, soft and loud, from all directions around me, high and low tones, melody, harmony, a fantastic free "orchestra" that nature offered me as a kind of meditation.

It was another fantastic moment to enjoy far from a world that is running faster and faster…


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.


Friday, November 20, 2020

Pushing doesn't help your kids in the right direction. Letting them follow their inner drive is the way.

When I was 17 years old, my dad gave me as a surprise a holiday to his beloved country Austria. Believe it or not, with a 10-day bus trip from De Jong Intratours (an organization that, I just saw, is still there). In the town of Auffach in the Wildshoenau we ended up in a class hotel (Platzl) with even a disco. A combined trip with both the elderly and the young. Lots of great experiences and impressions.

When we got back home, I finally knew what I wanted to be. Coach driver. Ever changing groups and contacts, exploring the world, accountability and above all a lot of fun. The image that I had from that trip, among other things.

By the way, if I had taken that path, I certainly would have had my own travel agency (FIT, Frans International Touring Service). That name has lasted a large part of my life. All my engineering projects carried that name and I also organized ski trips to Germany, Austria and Italy with rented Ford Transit vans.

When I received an application form at my request to become a driver from a bus company, my mother tore the letter up before my eyes. There were more qualities in me and I should continue studying, she thought. And yes, I did.

Now I know that my mother (and also father), from their thinking and background, actually wanted to push me towards something else. In their eyes, a better direction. And, mind you, that was from their best intentions. They wanted to do everything they could to ensure that their children had a good future. Hats off and I'm super grateful for it too.

What they actually didn't realize was that the road to achieving a good future is much easier if you allow the inner drive, I call it the soul, to freely deal with all the specific talents that someone has in them, to take on the path of life to go.

To push is to bring someone in the direction you want. Whether that makes that person happy and brings out all of his or her talents is still the question.

I too, towards my two children, took over that push behavior a bit. It actually led to nothing. Generational difference and different views also played a role in this. As parents, you often worry too much about your children's future. You rely too little on their own qualities to allow their future to emerge. After all, they come from you and you should trust that basis.

Stopping that pushing and letting them trust their own abilities yielded surprising results. For example, after her study oriental languages ​​(Chinese) my daughter chose not to see her future in that. She left for Australia, started working with horses and started a new training as a specialist car mechanic also for the mining industry.

And for my dear son it is mainly about having fun in his work and life. Don't sit still, but tackle things and be there for others (including animals).

Daughter, son and parents are happy. After all, it is their life. A matter of letting go on the path of life that is unfolding.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

  

Friday, November 13, 2020

The beauty of something so "normal"

A few days ago, early in the morning, I passed a tree with Kadhow. I have walked past it many times. Nothing special, a tree. Maybe because of the position of the sun right now, I suddenly noticed the bark of the trunk. I stopped to look closely. Magnificent! An artist work in itself that has a lot to tell.

Sometimes standing still makes a, not even hidden, world visible. 





Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

Friday, November 6, 2020

Tantra… encounter life as it is meant to be

A couple of years ago one of our guests became very emotional doing, bare feet, a walking exercise in soft grass at his temporary comfort zone. At home he was not allowed to walk bare feet. Without even thinking about this first, walking in the soft grass wasn’t just a sensation for him. It filled up his whole being. He felt totally released by expanding his awareness when the grass massaged his feet and his feet massaged the grass. The connection with the earth. It was a kind of understanding the body, mind and soul connection again.

At that time he took a period time, doing a Villa-Asia program, to shake up his live a bit. A personal ‘pit-stop’. Taking a road for himself less travelled and moved beyond the confines of his well-known comfort zone at home. Inviting him to work on personal mastery and to explore and realize his true potential.

And without even knowing or adapting on the experience, his unconscious mind immediately woke up to give him this, conscious, wake-up call. A deep inner happy feeling of aliveness, soaking up life.

Back home he discussed, changed the situation and felt much more connected / rooted and happier. Where a pleasant experience can be able of…

Most of us live at such a frenetic pace that the quality of awareness has eroded. Internal and external influences - responsible for change of lifestyle, ‘protection’ barriers, body veils and armouring - make things even worse. Walking around as a kind of Russian Matryoshka doll. And though we seek in this covers or “garments” the freedom of privacy and safety, most of the time they work deep inside as a personal harness and a chain. Covering the possibility to listen to our deep inner personal requests. 

How to soak up life again? That question brings me to Tantra, which I am currently studying to get my certificate as a teacher. And please, reading this blog, understand Tantra beyond the stereotype “concept” that Tantra just is about sex. Buddhist Tantra practices most of the time have nothing to do with sexual practices. They are a divine means to enlightenment through discovering the unique identity. So, Tantra offers many different layers/options.

The word Tantra comes from the ancient Sanskrit words tanoti (which means “to expand”) and travati (which means “liberation”). This implies that you can be liberated by expanding your consciousness, your quality of awareness.

It is an adventurous journey of again discovering your senses, energy and sensations as they are meant to be. An awakening of senses (and what they are able to provoke) and energy. An interweaving of the energies of many levels of consciousness from the ordinary to the most intense. A (spiritual) path for integrating body, mind and soul connection.

Exploring this can be a revelation called fully living (again). Bringing greater sense of aliveness to your existence.

There still are ways to really ‘connect’ in a more and more disconnecting world. You only have to take a pit-stop and start with yourself. Tantra is one of the ways to encounter a free life in real connection.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.


 

Friday, October 30, 2020

My outside world is getting smaller and smaller. My inner world, on the other hand, is growing.

The world is getting more and more “insane” my sister and I noted in a conversation recently. And of course, that is, let me speak for myself, my opinion (maybe it has only to do with me). Perhaps it has always been this way and now we hear things more quickly. And whether everything we hear is true or has only been distorted by politics, power and the media, that too remains a guess.

I sometimes wonder if people ever agree with something. We complain, demonstrate, whine as if we (often afterwards) know everything better. Not to mention respect for others. World leaders who behave even less than as small children towards each other and an outside world that laughs at that.

Today's world is all about buying, technology and investing. About money and power. That makes the economy healthy and people so often sick. What do you mean progress? Ask nature.

And all those wonderful friendships, network contacts and family relationships that we have and show on social media, when it really matters, often turn out to be very thin. After all, deep below the surface, in most cases it ultimately revolves around "I".

And yes, that those contacts "dilute" is certainly also because of me. After all, it is my choice, for example, to live abroad. I feel home. But sure, it is "far" from my former world. Or to no longer be on social media and to follow the news, flooded by advertisements, as little as possible. Too much and too great a continuous flow of negativity.

The world around me is also getting smaller and to be honest it also feels a bit lonelier (but certainly not alone). It is partly the result of my own choices.

The photo accompanying this blog is of a painting “Inner World” by Artist Jaswant. He says he meditates by painting and paints by meditating and that the inspiration for his work is the miracle of life. Those statements resonate with me. I recognize a lot of similarities in the totally changed lifestyle that I have been able to choose and live.

Although, or perhaps because, my outside world is getting smaller, my inner world is growing. Growth through inner exploration, admiration of nature as a teacher. Time and attention for what I am doing, the love ones in my life and for myself. Grateful for and deepening through what is made by my hands, what talents I can and may share, and what insights I discover of the miracle of life.

And that certainly has a reason ...


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.


Friday, October 23, 2020

You have to learn to live with it? No way!

I still remember how my father nearly only worked with patients in his massage practice who had been advised by the doctors; “You have to learn to live with it”. It made him energetic. And not only he, but certainly also his patients who entered his world received new energy and improved visibly from his approach.

His world, another world. Not a world that I would call alternative. A world of genuine attention (time for his patients), new possibilities, energy exchange, movement and a change of mindset. Not that the Western medical approach did not appeal to him or that he contradicted it. Far from it. Doctors were almost "holy" to him.

He literally opened up a new world of different methods and solutions and especially hope and faith. And no, that wasn't deceiving anyone. After all, everything comes to an end so also your life. He was that realistic and you have to be as well. With and through his approach and influence, it was indeed a different, better, quality of life for his patients than they had experienced up to that moment.

He soon realized that the statement “You just have to learn to live with it” meant nothing more than that in the Western medical system, the Western world and culture, the solutions had run out and the toolbox to be able to do something else simply was empty. But that was just the toolbox from that world. And that was not an end, but a beginning to open doors to other worlds. Not new, but actually very old other. After all, you are free to make a different choice.

He knew the reasons why the body could become attractive, literally a breeding ground, for disease and viruses. Such as mental and emotional stress, negativity (what about the continuous flow of negative information that you are exposed to every day), physical trauma, excessive use of alcohol, smoking or drugs, unhealthy food and especially being inactive. If there is no balance between all those things, your body becomes a magnet for diseases.

It all came to my mind when a friend here in Thailand sent me a presentation on empowerment.

If you are in the Western World then you go along with that system. Nothing wrong with that of course. But with the word "cancer", for example, have you ever considered that this is a very Western term that comes from Western culture and is linked to Western research methods and treatment methods?

A term that almost immediately evokes fear. It sucks energy out of you and that actually makes your body even sicker. It often makes you too tired to look in other worlds for solutions. After all, the standard approach is chemotherapy and radiation and if you deviate from them, the outside world will "help" you to tell you that you are crazy. Another negative impulse.

An approach and treatment in a world like India is different, and one in China too. There are so many ways and solutions

My father's world was different. From his studies and experiences, he knew those "distant" other possibilities. In addition, he was very adept at getting people to change their mental limitations in their thinking.

He knew that systems from other worlds worked and that it just had to do with how those systems resonate with your mind. How you really believed in it and how strong you were to sometimes be able to row against the influence of your Western outside world. The collaboration between your body and your mind is unique and powerful. With his knowledge and expertise he was a master at stimulating that process sincerely.

The world and culture in which you live is too small to assume that you (in most cases) have to learn to live with your ailment.

There are so many different worlds with possibilities on our planet. They only have to resonate with you. A matter of empowering. 

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.


Friday, October 16, 2020

More and more early (bird) yoga and meditation spectators

Every morning around 6 AM I start with meditation and around one hour of yoga. Happy to have the labyrinth now for it to use as well. 

We are about nine month in the process of creating things at our site in Surin, Thailand. First disturbing the nature and animal world a little bit. Animals are curious and come to see what's all going on. A bit scared at first sight but... things are changing. 

They happen to understand we come to live in and join their environment and are not there to scare them or to be afraid of. So, more and more they seem to accept and feel more comfortable coming to have a closer look. 

For us it's really nice to be spectators of their acting. But actually, so early in the morning, it is nice to see I get more and more 'friends' looking at me doing yoga. A wonderful nature experience. 


















Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

Friday, October 9, 2020

Petite Chartres Labyrinth in Surin, Thailand

Proud to have the opportunity to make an announcement in this week’s blog.

October 4th, nascent Pyramid House Thailand in Surin is home of a Petite-Chartres Labyrinth.

Together with my girlfriend I created this labyrinth. For me the fifth in my life.
A labyrinth is an archetype, a divine imprint. Walking it you are rediscovering a long-forgotten mystical tradition. Labyrinths offer you the opportunity to walk to that place within yourself where the rational merges with the intuitive and the spiritual is reborn.

Although we hope to stay healthy to go on with the process of building our pyramids for a couple of years, the labyrinth is already there. 
Many people already asked us why one of the first steps in our building process is building the labyrinth. This has everything to do with getting and keeping the right energy at our site, the use of it for our daily yoga and meditation exercises, and future attraction and visibility of our place.

Since personal development courses, one in Chartres (France) around 14 years ago for my past job, I feel a special connection and invitation in working with labyrinths. Lots of wonderful personal and guest experiences I have so far working with the classic and medieval labyrinths I have built at the health resort in Mae Rim, Chiang Mai, Thailand. 

Although we build the labyrinth at our private location, we invite visitors, after making an appointment, to get the wonderful experience of the labyrinth as well and/or do Samatha and Vipassana meditation. We welcome them to our labyrinth as walking meditation, a spiritual practice of simply an opportunity to calm the mind and enjoy peace, quiet and reflection. 
We are very willing, if wanted, to give the necessary background information and guidelines for walking and use.


To stimulate this, October 6th already, our labyrinth is shown online at the World Wide Labyrinth Locator (for a link click here). 

We also, will start in the near future with Labyrinth (Kundalini) yoga, singing bowl sessions, connective dance and working with the labyrinth in combination with our campfire-place.

Happy to share this part of our process is ready for use now.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.


Friday, October 2, 2020

Pay less, less hassle, less blah, blah, blah and yet… keep borrowing, get into debt, with all the misery that entails. You imprison yourself.

I don't know what it is but every day, despite my blockers, cleaners and virus scanner on my laptop, my spam box on my gmail is filling up. And yes, of course with all kinds of nonsensical marketing.

90% Is about taking out personal loans and paying less. As if life is all about buying more or new to become and stay happy. We have to show the outside world that we can go with the masses.

Where I live, it seems to be the case that more than 90% of, for example, cars, scooters, mopeds and even cell phones have been financed. Installment and personal loans. High and low interest rates. Most people are head over heels in debt and don't seem to want to understand that you have less to spend every month because of… your payments you need to do extra. They choose that beautiful and sometimes shiny show to the outside world with things that you really can't afford and in many cases actually don't need at all.

As a child I learned from my parents that if you didn't have the money for something you couldn't buy it. And if you still wanted to buy something not having the money yet, you start with saving first. Borrowing or buying on installment (with interest)… that was not an option. Yes, only for a house.

Do not live "beyond your means" I was invariably told. And that temporary extra discount as a attraction, indicates that you actually always had to pay way too much and therefore simply got ripped off. After all, a lot money is still being made during the "sale" with discounts sometimes up to 70% or more.

Almost every day I delete all those stupid "offers", "just for me", from my spam box. Why should they stay there for 30 days to be automatically deleted?

Let others earn from your misery in the end? Temporary "fun" and end up tightening the reins for a long time? Jail yourself financially for some (short) pleasure? You're not crazy, aren't you? No financial debt is much more beneficial and ultimately feels (for me) much better.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.