What do I want from life? (2)

A sequel to the blog from two weeks ago. What do you really want from life? You deprive yourself if you allow yourself to be limited in that question by what the world around you might think of you. By the way, do you really know that, or are these thoughts just and only the performances you make in your head?
 
If you go deeply into that question, really take the time for it, then you can discover that people individually may answer that question different, but that the essence is the same for everyone.
You cannot find the answer in worldly things or in outer conditions. You cannot find absolute fulfillment of your life in the things of this world. Not even in status, position or fame. Life is not, not for anyone at all, only positive and fun. Only "social" media allow you to see this false world of people. A delusional world that is misleading and actually reflects ego gratification. The earth is a school of life, I once read. In my eyes true. And you can only experience positive things if you also know the negative sides. It is the duality in life.
 
Those same essences that you will find are; You want to live (you don't want to die), and you want happiness (bliss, no worry or suffering).
 
In many cases you have your own "free" choice as far as that happiness is concerned. And yes, that entails the "risk" that you may fall outside of "the group" as I actually wrote at the beginning of this second blog part. Do you have the courage and guts to deviate, to be different, to make choices that matter to you personally (it is your life after all). And no, that's not selfish. If you are not good about yourself, in your life, how can you be there optimally for others?
 
And as for that dying. We prefer not to talk about it knowing that it is part of our life package. Nobody can escape it. We have divorced ourselves from the process of death and see it as an end point or disappearance. Cemeteries and urns help us to soften that feeling of disappearance. Generations after us have less and less with those former situations, and with those cemeteries and urns. I remember several cemeteries that are still "deserted" and completely unkempt.
 
And for that fight against death, we have created quite a lot. I just heard an IC doctor say that the IC units in our hospitals are the most expensive units to fight against death (and disease).
By the way, I don't really like the term "fighting" (diseases) and all the medications and energy consumption that come with it. A kind of at war with yourself. Our body has enormous self-healing energy that you can stimulate in many other ways than with medicines, radiation treatments and certainly not by fighting.
 
I have often written in my blogs about my experiences with death during my previous work in crises and disaster management. In very visual terms, when someone is dead, you still see the empty shell, the packaging, in which that person once lived. The soul is out, gone.
The death notice of my oldest brother Fons had the, for me touching, headline:

“If they tell you I'm dead, don't believe them.

If they show you my dead body

then know that you are looking at an illusion. ”

 
The same IC doctor told from his practical experiences that death is only a moment of transformation. An expansion outside that cover, that packaging. A situation in which people, from a kind of deeper personal loneliness, for the first time in their lives feel totally accepted in the universe that embraces us. Far from an end point.
 
And based on those experiences and this philosophy, in light of the primary question of these two blogs, wouldn't it be great if we didn't wait for that transformation point? Why not start now? After all, we are already part of the universe.
 
Be totally accepted as you are and totally accept others as they are in true love.
 
Not many reasons anymore to worry much about everything that is happening with and around us and to be more aware of feeling and accepting accepted.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

email: captijninsight@gmail.com 

Building blog:
https://pyramidhousethailand.blogspot.com 

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

End-of-year wish

We are in December of the year again.
 
A month of even more stress and (online)buying temporary happiness?
Or just a month, just as nature shows us in the West, to take a rest, perhaps to reflect, learn, get closer to yourself and prepare for a new year that is coming again in which you may and can share the best of yourself?
 
We hope, in the coming year, that you can choose things in your life that will make you sustainable happiest and create long term bliss, and that you will not be led by feelings of guilt, panic and fear created by the world around us.
 
Merry Christmas and a happy new year.
 
Frans Captijn, Phatsamon
&
Kadhow

What do I want from life? (1)

We have taken a break in our building process for the past two weeks. Enjoying the beautiful nature in Chiang Mai and surroundings again. And automatically more time for other things and some personal deepening.

For example, I listened to a presentation that resonated and invited you to go deeper into it. The key question in it was: “What do I want from life?”.

I have long since discovered that it has nothing to do with money, position, reputation, an expensive car, etc .. Regardless of what you achieve in life, it is never enough. I laugh more and more about it. These are the worldly things that when you look deeply at them may sometimes make you temporarily happy.

For example, Christmas is nearby again. The essence of that celebration can be sought further and further. It is a period that has degenerated into mainly buying and the cultivation of desires for things that you actually do not need at all. Do those gadgets really make you happy for a long time? A drone in the sky that kindly asks you to go home because it is too busy in the city with shopping people is actually telling you, you need to stop for a while from your continuous temporary happiness satisfaction.

But back to that important question. To answer that question for yourself, you have to go further and deeper than all those superficial things in which we all usually get stuck. It is good to think about, maybe especially at the end of this year again, not having a mouth full of teeth at the end of your life if you wonder whether you actually lived or whether you may have missed something essential.

To be continued.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

email: captijninsight@gmail.com 

Building blog:
https://pyramidhousethailand.blogspot.com 

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

We have lost our way and reason a bit in this time of fear hypnosis

The last ten months enough distance between people has been created, working from home has been sufficiently introduced and the economy of online services and ordering has grown faster than ever predictably. The street scene has changed with scooters that bring food to your home and we are told from the air via drones that it is getting a bit too busy in the city and the shops are closing. Kind request to return home peacefully. You might think it is going well. We are making progress.

For over ten months already, not a day goes by or fear and guilt feelings are instilled against a virus through several channels. And as marketing teaches, the power of the message is in repetition. Especially if you bring it the way it is ongoing presented. A way and word choice (superlative) that has a huge impact on people. Anxious and fierce concepts that cause stress, anxiety, depression and also anger. Practices that exhaust mentally, emotionally and physically. We are increasingly accepting all kinds of suggestions as "truth" and that is hypnosis. And, do not think conspiracy, I can no longer imagine that all this happens "by coincidence".
And the worst part is, we will not be able to resolve it for the time being because we are no longer (or cannot be) open to other points of view, ideas and reason.

We have lost the way and the ratio, at least in my opinion. Every now and then I get to hear that someone in the street of friends or acquaintances has died of the virus. And, mind you, that is terrible. But why does this continue to be in the spotlight and does it seem that death from Cancer (which we as I recently saw very nicely call "New Formations") or from cardiovascular disease with death rates dozens of times higher is accepted without much attention?

Wake up, become curious and discover the true values ​​in your life more deeply. Do all of today's stories serve your personal emotional life or confuse you? You still have a personal choice.

Turn off those channels as I called them in the beginning, such as "social" media and news, and choose the things in your life that make you happiest. And personal, face-to-face contact with people, touching each other, and that sincere hug are often part of that.
Time to be open (again) for them.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

email: captijninsight@gmail.com 

Building blog:
https://pyramidhousethailand.blogspot.com 

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.