What do I want from life? (2)

A sequel to the blog from two weeks ago. What do you really want from life? You deprive yourself if you allow yourself to be limited in that question by what the world around you might think of you. By the way, do you really know that, or are these thoughts just and only the performances you make in your head?
 
If you go deeply into that question, really take the time for it, then you can discover that people individually may answer that question different, but that the essence is the same for everyone.
You cannot find the answer in worldly things or in outer conditions. You cannot find absolute fulfillment of your life in the things of this world. Not even in status, position or fame. Life is not, not for anyone at all, only positive and fun. Only "social" media allow you to see this false world of people. A delusional world that is misleading and actually reflects ego gratification. The earth is a school of life, I once read. In my eyes true. And you can only experience positive things if you also know the negative sides. It is the duality in life.
 
Those same essences that you will find are; You want to live (you don't want to die), and you want happiness (bliss, no worry or suffering).
 
In many cases you have your own "free" choice as far as that happiness is concerned. And yes, that entails the "risk" that you may fall outside of "the group" as I actually wrote at the beginning of this second blog part. Do you have the courage and guts to deviate, to be different, to make choices that matter to you personally (it is your life after all). And no, that's not selfish. If you are not good about yourself, in your life, how can you be there optimally for others?
 
And as for that dying. We prefer not to talk about it knowing that it is part of our life package. Nobody can escape it. We have divorced ourselves from the process of death and see it as an end point or disappearance. Cemeteries and urns help us to soften that feeling of disappearance. Generations after us have less and less with those former situations, and with those cemeteries and urns. I remember several cemeteries that are still "deserted" and completely unkempt.
 
And for that fight against death, we have created quite a lot. I just heard an IC doctor say that the IC units in our hospitals are the most expensive units to fight against death (and disease).
By the way, I don't really like the term "fighting" (diseases) and all the medications and energy consumption that come with it. A kind of at war with yourself. Our body has enormous self-healing energy that you can stimulate in many other ways than with medicines, radiation treatments and certainly not by fighting.
 
I have often written in my blogs about my experiences with death during my previous work in crises and disaster management. In very visual terms, when someone is dead, you still see the empty shell, the packaging, in which that person once lived. The soul is out, gone.
The death notice of my oldest brother Fons had the, for me touching, headline:

“If they tell you I'm dead, don't believe them.

If they show you my dead body

then know that you are looking at an illusion. ”

 
The same IC doctor told from his practical experiences that death is only a moment of transformation. An expansion outside that cover, that packaging. A situation in which people, from a kind of deeper personal loneliness, for the first time in their lives feel totally accepted in the universe that embraces us. Far from an end point.
 
And based on those experiences and this philosophy, in light of the primary question of these two blogs, wouldn't it be great if we didn't wait for that transformation point? Why not start now? After all, we are already part of the universe.
 
Be totally accepted as you are and totally accept others as they are in true love.
 
Not many reasons anymore to worry much about everything that is happening with and around us and to be more aware of feeling and accepting accepted.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

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