Friday, April 26, 2013

Maybe, you still can learn something of birds…



When did you hear the birds around you for the last time?

My daughter, who was here on summer holidays, on a morning went with me to the meditation class. At our current Villa-Asia location we do that morning meditation on a plateau in the mountains with a beautiful view on the forest surrounding us. After the class she told me that she had experienced a ‘surround sound show’ of bird sounds. It seems sometimes like you live here in a kind of giant aviary.

As long as I live here now, I never heard the birds sing an unhappy song. Of course, because I can’t talk their language as a human being, I am not sure about that. But if you listen in silence to the sounds of those birds around you, you hear and you experience only a kind of joy.
In the morning we awake in the cheerful bird disco and at night other sounds come instead. In the Western world you can get CDs to calm down with this noises. At the current Villa-Asia place it is the standard and yes, also here you can put the sound 'off '. You only have to shut your windows (and turn the air-conditioning ‘on’. But ... why would you? Safe energy and enjoy!

Those birds are gathering or hunting for their food the whole day. Actually they are busy with the bets on their primary necessities such as Maslow so beautifully described. With ' security ', or 'possession', they have little to do. They always seem to find time to every now and then sing a pleasant song. They live with and in the moment.

Lots of times I hear people say, “I want this. I want that. I ought to have this and have that.” These people have their minds so set on the things they want that they don’t stop to appreciate and enjoy what they have. I don’t know if people like this ever notice the birds singing outside, but if they could stop and listen, they might learn something from these birds.

According me, this is the world of marketing. Craving for more. Often I say therefore that advertising is actually only created for those things that you really don't need. We have to enjoy what we already have. This is one of the little secrets of life. If we don’t have this attitude we are too hard on ourselves.

In the continuous rat-race called ‘western life’ to try to have more to become happy in any case most of the times you do not hear the birds around you. Although, they still go on producing their cheerful tunes. Perhaps as a reminder that you also can be happy with ‘little’ or to teach that you just enjoy everything what you already have.
And if that is difficult for you anyway ... try to give attention to that continuous surround show around you. You'll be surprised what you all didn't hear till that moment but always was there, just for you.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 
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Friday, April 12, 2013

A celebration again! Happy Songkran!


The Songkran festival is celebrated in Thailand as the traditional New Year's Day from 13 to 16 April. It coincides with the New Year of many calendars Southeast Asia.

The date of the festival was originally set by astrological calculation, but it is now fixed. Songkran falls in the hottest time of the year in Thailand, at the end of the dry season. Songkran has traditionally been celebrated as the New Year for many centuries. It is now observed nationwide, even in the far south. However, the most famous Songkran celebrations are still in the northern city of Chiang Mai, where it continues for six days and even longer. It has also become a party for foreigners and an additional reason for many to visit Thailand for immersion in another culture. 

April 13th Wan Sangkhan Lohng. People clean their houses and prepare for the new year festival on this day. The Chiangmai Songkran parade traditionally takes place on this day involving revered Buddha images from the city's temples, floats, representative groups from the various districts of Chiangmai province, musicians, and traditionally costumed beauties all of whom are liberally drenched all along the parade route by the spectators.

At our place we have / celebrate Rod Nam Dam Hua (During the Songkran festival, the Lanna people will conduct the Su Ma Karawa ceremony in order to apologize to elders for all the bad deeds they have done to them, either intentionally or unintentionally, to show their gratitude and respect. This ceremony is called Rod Nam Dam Hua, which usually begins on the first day of the incoming year.) and Offering food to monks on the morning.

Small molded sand Chedis are build on our location. Please see the attached photo. 

April 14th Wan Nao. On Wan Nao people prepare cooked and preserved food to be used in Buddhist merit making on the next day. On this day people also go down to the Ping River to collect buckets of sand which is used to construct molded sand chedis, decorated with cut paper streamers and flowers, in the temple compound. When demolished, the sand from the chedis raises the level of the temple courtyard.

April 15th Wan Payawan. On this, the first day of the new year, people gathered at the wat in the early morning to offer the food prepared the previous day, fruit, new robes, and other goods to the monks. Traditionally this was the day when subdued water play started, but this has devolved to the exuberant water throwing that stretches over the four days of the festival.

April 16th Wan Park Bpee. On this day people pay respect to their ancestors, elders, or people worthy of respect due to advanced age or position. Scented water is poured over the hands of the individuals being paid respect who in turn bless the participants in the ceremony.





Happy Songkran!





Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 
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Friday, April 5, 2013

Don’t fight with yourself.



The Buddhism learns a Path to Peace. In Villa-Asia we also work with it.

One of the things following this path is to be equanimous.

Equanimity refers to the ability to accept what is without resistance. After all, if something’s already so, what’s the benefit of resisting? Equanimity refers to accepting things you can’t control in a given moment. And it refers to not denying or suppressing your thoughts and emotions. You can’t control the financial markets or a company’s market value. Also there are things in your personal life. So being equanimous about these things is a healthy strategy.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you must accept everything as ‘is’ and not make changes. If you’re unhappy with a situation and are in a position to change it, than do so. Do not sit still, work on yourself, do not wait but take the first step and discover your inner voice.

Literally, “equanimity” means balance. In practical terms it means don’t fight with yourself. 
Stop with battling but take life as it appears and enjoy the lessons. What do they say about you? Equanimity refers to an attitude of not interfering with the operation of the six senses (hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting, the thinking mind and the feeling body) or sensory experience.

Just act of compassion.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 
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Friday, March 22, 2013

Time for new leadership and stop managing?



Most people are convinced that in the world we are in an awful lot of 'movement' is going on. We are, so it seems and feels, in a strong transformation.



The least you can say, we are having complex global problems. A chaotic situation and also very turbulent. Their effects on each individual and / or organization is different. Nevertheless, many people think and feel that their future seems uncertain. Networks and social media are keeping us in a firm grip and everything goes much faster. Even so fast  that we can no longer reason from ratio. Religion, ethics, western culture and scientific knowledge are not adequate. Many people are looking for other forms of support. We are forced to live (even) more out of feeling and intuition.



The current management and leadership is influenced by the turbulent current time. Leadership changes with time, by changing of people (of various cooperation and inflow of new generations), tasks, environment and social circumstances and developments.



In this time we need not just one but at least  two new types of leadership (that is my statement). Further on there is developing  a new form of 'management'.



New leadership first requires gaining of personal leadership. Besides heading for  organizations out of inspiring leadership. 'Managing'? Transformation, As I like to call it "Step-stone management”, will increasingly enter upon.



Personal leadership

Personal leadership, for me is, taking responsibility for your own life.

Know, or discover, your mission and make that personal mission come true, take all your natural talents and developed skills and put them in an optimum collaborative way. Show your true identity and live your ideal. Nice words, maybe you never quite get there. Taking matters into your own hands (take action) instead of continuous thinking, considering every little thing, postponing, listening to every “good advice” from others instead of listening to that voice inside you calling for many years, that says take control of yourself. My approach is that behind every man there is an idea imagined by the great director of your life. So Follow yourself! Look for the inspiration in your own blueprint and the potential that you've got. You are the leader of yourself and therefore no longer of minor importance.



Inspiring leadership

In the chaotic situations and developments in which we are and within the networks in which we operate other factors than hierarchy and power games are increasingly playing bigger roles. Organizations become flatter, directors and managers will disappear, the collective staff/personnel, is getting better organized for their tasks due to the network they are in and their specialty.  A leader takes the authority no longer from his or hers position but from his or hers inner strength, identity and service.

The new leader is the one, that will take up the collective highest good, from harmony and inspiration. It is not someone who plays the role of boss, but he/she is the accepted natural leader (whether or not for a particular job). It is the right person who can listen without judging. Who inspires people. Who is not going to convince you in a debate, but finds value in dialogue. He / she must be able to deal with chaos, complexity, paradoxes and uncertainty. A new leader will be asked to shape a concrete form that will come out of chaos. That doesn’t take managers who have (or keep) (literary) an open door to their staff and personnel, but set open their hart for the inspiration and enthusiasm of their employees. These executives see value in allowing stillness. In that stillness they find new energy and creativity. They imagine no longer just the question: 'What should be done?' but much more they explore and make them receptive to the answer to the question: "What wants to happen here? “.



Transformation or "Step-stone management”

From the above proposed developments, I expect even fewer results working within the so-called SMART and planned frameworks. The complexity of this time is almost impossible to control with measurable criteria. The process requires (self-) confidence, inspiration, creativity (arise), service and stop wanting to keep everything under control. It is in many situations no longer desirable draw al kind of plans of action in advance. It is better to form the plans of action step by step within the process. Many influences on themes and projects change so fast that they hardly are incalculable in advance. These changes are never complete and will therefore always go on. Who can, in today’s world really look objectively five years ahead? The everyday practice has proven that. Transformation, the new 'management style ', calls for the “step by step”, always from a newly created environment with complexity, paradoxes and uncertainty, dealing with these successive dilemmas in an organization and transition approach.

You could call that "Step-stone management”.



Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 
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Friday, March 8, 2013

Don’t believe in ‘retiring’

“Age is opportunity no less
Than youth itself, though in another dress,
And as the evening twilight fades away
The sky is filled with stars, invisible by day.”
(Longfellow)


I am lucky to have had a terrific youth. This most because of my parents. They gave me possibilities and an environment to try out my natural qualities and talents. Learn by play was their parole.

My father had a passion. Till the age of about 54 he was an excellent commercial agent of the famous Dutch ‘Droste’ chocolates in the Netherlands. But… he had a dream. A dream to help people suffering of physical pain. People where medical doctors said to: ‘You have to learn to live with it’. This sign for my father was as a command to start to help. For him it was an opportunity to show what he was up to.
So he studied, in evening ours, for psychotherapist and glorious passed for his exams. Also he started with exercising and studying yoga.
He always told his children “Don’t believe in retiring but go on with your life mission every day!’ As an example for us he quit with his job at the age of 54 and started his own practice in psychotherapy and yoga. With a lot of success and appreciation till he could not live this passion anymore at the age of 94 he went on with it. He helped a lot of people to believe in their inner strength, qualities and talents to heal themselves and serve the world out of their experience and wisdom. They did and some of them still do.

So he showed us that work, when you live your passion, does not feel at all as work anymore. Also that everything you need for yourself and your family you have to take care of, will be there just at the right moment.
It’s joining life with the idea that everything is good for you and it still does matter to serve. It’s living with that exuberant enthusiasm that young people have. Jump into life with both feet and live! Jump into the river of life and start swimming. The water of life is fine especially with your life experience!

Don’t believe in retiring. The mind never gets old but just wise with the minute. Your thinking may slow down a bit, but the extra knowledge and wisdom you have developed make up for it.

You will have more appreciation at the end of your life than ever. And you will appreciate beauty more. So older age should be composed of wise days. They should be beautiful and wonderful days. You can appreciate life more fully than at any other time of your life.

Don’t be afraid to change your attitude. You can start with it now! Don’t be afraid to look inward and let wisdom unfold, to develop new thoughts and to replenish your mind with other and / or better thinking. It really matters!

To find out more about this, driven by the power of thoughts of my parents and my own believing, the Villa-Asia programs appeared. Not to be successful as a business itself, but to make you more successful as you probably still are (no matter your age) to serve and create a better world. That’s really a natural ‘win-win’ situation.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 
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