Have to dismiss people? You are dismissed? Make the difference in style!

If you know how to recruit as an employer, and also when you accept a job as an employee (be honest), you will know that everything begins and everything also can have an end. This is a simple truth. There is a time for beginning and there can be a time for ending.

It does not have to be that there is a wound in it. See it as a time to learn, thank each other and part ways. Not in anger, not in rage, not with a grudge, not with any complaint, but with gratitude and thankfulness.

Every person is unique and worthwhile (even when you are or have to be dismissed). But when you are not totally aware of all your talents, your gifts and your life mission and your habitat is not the right one to flourish… It all seems not to be right. No future in sight.

Wake up! There is a new future! Is this only a problem or can you accept it as an opportunity as well? Leave your general excuses as for instance being too old to find another work environment. Look behind your inner believe. Save sending out negative energy. Work, with a little bit support, on yourself to find new ways. Come into action. Don’t complain, don’t judge, don’t blame. Without even knowing you are infecting and intoxicate not only yourself but also your love ones and environment around you. 
Do not believe in yourself but trust in yourself! When you cannot trust yourself, who on earth can you trust?

Work together as a team (yes, that’s still possible) and make the most of it. Use this period as an opportunity. Not as an ending but as a fresh new beginning. Analyse and support each other. Work, examine and prepare on taking courageous challenges and steps for the future. Don’t forget to breath!

Give it a try. Remember, it’s not only about the money. It’s more about getting joy in life and living. Make the difference in style. Use this time to find new sustainable and good feeling solutions for both in a separated future. Take the responsibility as an employee for, and take control over, your own life so attractive further steps will arrive. Let your (former) employee, by giving him or her some support during this process, be your business card in his or her new future.

Why give so many attention to the problem and procedures instead of giving attention to different most of the time even cheaper and better fitting and feeling solutions. If one, well known, door closes automatically another, sometimes not yet seen, door of opportunities opens.

So when ‘the end’ is near choose a different way to say ‘good-by’ to each other. Don’t fight and spend lots of money on lawyers when it’s not (yet) necessary. Be creative, offer and take possibilities, give and take chances, invest in (former) human capital, do not harm, save both of your names. Make this change worthwhile for both employer/organization and employee.

We experience, working with people from different parts of the world and from different cultures, it works. Off course you cannot guarantee. We are working with people... But still, a lot of progress, a lot of insight and a lot of change out of inner power of clients. They are (also) open and willing to find their own way out of personal strength.

Save emotions, (negative) energy, extra work and money. See the challenge and make the difference and change in style together! Invest in the beauty of change!

During our special retreat program we experience this ‘obstacle’, for both, can be a huge and much more easy positive opportunity.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight: “Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 

www.captijninsight.com

captijninsight@gmail.com

Your life cannot go wrong

About a month ago I received this article written by Jeff Foster. A great guy who sometimes showed up at 'The Padma Centre' in Middelburg - NL to give a presentation. The place where I for several years joined a nice and inspiring meditation and philosophy group, living my 'former' life in this life.

Jeff's theme often is a topic during a communication cafe or other dialogue with guests here in Northern Thailand. It's causing lots of beautiful in-sights as well as relief. The way Jeff describes in his article, in my opinion, is so wise and touching it should be a shame not to share in our blog. Be aware maybe you need some time to deeply understand and to suppress your first coming up thoughts. 

Your life cannot go wrong

In reality, your world is set up so that nothing happens to you, but everything happens for you - for your awakening, for your growth, for your inspiration, for your exploration - even if you forget that, or sometimes cannot see it, or sometimes fall into distraction and despair.

When there is no fixed destination, you cannot ever lose your destination, so you cannot ever lose your path, so nothing that happens in your life can take you off your path. Your path IS what happens, and what happens IS your path. There is no other.

Everything is a gift on this unbreakable path that you call your life - the laughter, the tears, the times of great sorrow, the experiences of profound loss, the pain, the confusion, the times you believe you'll never make it, even the overwhelming heartbreak of love - even if you forget that sometimes, or cannot see that sometimes, or lose faith absolutely in the entire show sometimes.

But even the loss of faith in the show is part of the show, and even the scene where 'something goes wrong' is not indicative of the show going wrong, and so you are always exactly where you need to be, believe it or not, even if you are not.

Life can be trusted absolutely, even when trust seems a million light-years away, and life cannot go wrong, for all is life, and life is all. Understand this, know it in your heart, and spirituality is profoundly simple, as simple as breathing, as natural as gazing up at the stars at night and falling into silent wonder. The universe is more beautiful than you could ever imagine.

Jeff Foster

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight: “Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 

www.captijninsight.com

captijninsight@gmail.com

What's the nature of honesty?

In my life I had to deal a lot of times with people who were dishonest. This week, talking to a guest in one of our programs, I got a new insight of the character of honesty. I found that, maybe, I was totally wrong, or better to say not complete, in my inner belief of understanding honesty.

When I got the question: “What is the nature of honesty?” it took me a while to think about it. After the first thoughts and spontaneous commends this question touched me and I started to learn and discover something more about honesty. And again the Buddhist principles showed me an angle I did not recognize before. An eye-opener.

One of the main life “rules” in Buddhism is; “Life is about doing good things”. So do not harm yourself in the first place and do not harm the people around you. One of the deeper levels used in Karma (action).

Let’s first skip the ‘Machiavelli idea’ that people have the active intention to use lies so they can rule. This has nothing to do with soul-engagement in (love) relationships. It’s being totally aware of misusing other people in an active way to help to raise themselves one step ‘higher’. A kind of stealing, or criminal intent.

When you talk about honesty, the first thing to do is to be honest to yourself. And to be honest to yourself you only have the reverence of YOUR reality. It’s your base for karma, action (giving & receiving). This reality is the mirror for you how to receive messages from the world (relations) around you.

So when you get the feeling that people around you are dishonest, first look deeply in yourself. Ask yourself if this is really true. Can you be totally sure? Do you know the reality of the other ‘party’? Did you take the time to investigate his or her reality / background?

The fourth guideline in Buddhism is about avoiding false speech. With our speech we can cause harm and other people can harm us.

You can sometimes feel hurt by the, in your opinion, lies that other people tell or told. But people are human, they make mistakes, they may be under stress sometimes, they say a sharp word. When your heart is open this can sting it. But most of the time there is no real malice (there is no intention to speak false), nothing personal intended in that. It is just that people are fallible and in different situations they act hastily and make mistakes. They have the intention of truthfulness, sincerity and openness. Sometimes they only use the wrong words, tone, or melody in there explanation. Maybe they are not even aware, in the same way like you, that there can be other opinions, cultural backgrounds or inner believes.

It is really easy to turn oneself in somebody wronged…, thinking; “this always keeps happening to me…’, everybody is against me and / or lying to me”. Maybe, in a different way you can think or even better feel, they try to make you a success. It’s all a lesson to investigate things from different angles and positions before thinking and /or telling that what you heard was really a lie. It helps you to keep trust in a relationship. Without trust there is not a single soul-engagement.

When you are / stay in balance (equanimity) you can find a moment to discover more and to ask the other person(s) about the background of their answer or statement. I am sure, most of the times you will be surprised to look to yourself into their mirror. Maybe you even laugh. When you do… skip yourself a little wink and open up to forgiveness (Forgiveness = giving a new chance.). A topic on itself. Through meditation we can understand what it means. It teaches us that we need not feel graved and feel not retaliate when things turn against us.

Because actually everybody has his best interest and heart but some of the times they don’t show it. Some people are unfortunately so out of touch with compassion, love and wisdom, that they persistently and without even knowing do things that harm others. That’s  tragic but we should not lose heart when we notice that.  We have to know that there are people who are desperately confused and have yet to learn that the way to live is to abandon desires and cultivate kindness to all beings.

The Buddhism teaches that we are living this lifetime to learn.  Everybody is learning, changing and growing. Remembering this, that enables us to live unselfish, live for the good of all beings doing that with promotes openness, happiness and harmony.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight: “Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 

www.captijninsight.com

captijninsight@gmail.com

Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated

Isn’t it a little bit stupid? It seems that we have become doubtful about anything that isn’t difficult in life.

Confucius once said: “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”

The world grows only more complex. Complexity has taken over how we attempt to get things done. It looks like we can’t seem to do anything simply anymore. Making a decision, creating a plan, holding a meeting—all of these now involve complex and time-consuming processes. 

A once-simple process, in the present time, has become a “technique” and when possible must be done ‘SMART’. We debate instead of using dialogue.We become exhausted by the difficulty of these practices and frustrated by the lack of productive outcomes and quality. 

As soon as a simple process becomes a technique, it grows only more complex and difficult. Most of the time weakening creativity and inspiration. It never becomes simpler. 

We forget that we already know how to do simple things like thinking, planning and holding a conversation. Instead, we become meek students of difficult methods.

In the presence of so many specialized techniques for doing simple things, we’ve become suspicious of anything that looks easy. Often it’s wasting our time. If something’s so simple, why have we invested so much time and money in learning a complicated method? 
Simplicity has powerful partners: ‘common sense’, ‘creativity’ and engagement between people. 

People often laugh when they finally realize there’s a simple, common sense solution to a so called problem. It’s a laugh of relief—and of recognition. 

Real change begins with the simple act of people connecting. Talking to one another about what they care about. Conversations in which we express our fears and dreams can give birth to powerful actions that change lives and restore hope for the future.

It’s all very simple.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight: “Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 

www.captijninsight.com

captijninsight@gmail.com

Is your world reality...?

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to do a program with two people from Dubai, who were, both private and in business a couple. People who know the life which we call Rat Race as their back-pocket.

After a fantastic nice and inspiring short time together they thanked me warmly for the insights they had gained by peace, relaxation and mirrors which I was allowed to keep before them. Not only gained they in business, but also in their family and as a couple. Both they and I have not only a nice feeling about it but it kept on growing by sharing. And ... they totally discovered it themselves.

Saying goodbye and thanking me afterwards gave perhaps the most beautiful insight. When they said goodbye to me they said they are going back (after these intense days) now  into 'the real world' and 'reality'. That comment made me silent for a moment and I looked at them questioningly. That moment of silence also brought them to rethink. I thanked by saying that I then obviously was not living in a real world and reality in their eyes ... They started a bit of a vague smile. One that I knew from my training that I followed as an actor and behind which a whole world of experience of their own choices was hiding.

The greatest discovery of their program was actually that you are responsible for your own choices and thus create your own reality in the world around you. And that is nearly always for once not easier said than done. If you truly look at  your general excuse . Your perception is your reality.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight: “Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 

www.captijninsight.com

captijninsight@gmail.com