Expect death and enjoy even more what life really is all about. What is the point of life?

It seems that my friends and acquaintances leave this world at an ever faster pace. Of course that has to do with my aging and maybe I should be happy in some way that I can still read the memorial messages.

Certainly after my decision to early quit my work, quite simply because I could not do that work after a heavy burn-out any longer, my life developed deeper in value and significance for me. I live and enjoy day to day. It is a change in attitude that helped me to feel fulfillment now nearly every day. What matters for me is consciousness and its content.

Regularly I tell people; "I no longer have medication for high blood pressure. I can only remember stress. And if the sun does not rise for me tomorrow, whatever other people think of it, then at least I have lived life the fullest.'

For me, the deeper value and meaning of life certainly has to do with the fact that the theme 'death' has taken a normal and conscious place in my life. Just like birth is part of it. It is nothing you have to push away. By being aware of it, I automatically put a lot more emphasis on things that really matter in my life and I enjoy living life even more.  

The statement that I often see on mourning cards and in mourning advertisements of he or she died 'completely unexpectedly' made me think last week. How can you die completely unexpectedly? Isn’t is an established fact? Actually you cannot even expect it, you have to count on it. And of course I know how it is meant, but it is not a bad idea to look at it and to contemplate on it in a literal way during your life time. It can be a mirror to enjoy LIVING life more and you may be less concerned about all the things that are bothering you so much. Do they actually really matter and worth consuming your night rest and energy?

Stop wasting your life away. Ask yourself if you really, from your inside, care about the right things.

Birth and death belong to the life circle. As is sometimes nicely expressed, they are 'inextricably connected’. Nobody can escape from it. You will, very sure and do not possible to escape, pass away. High or low in 'status' (I increasingly laugh about it), 'poor' or 'rich'. And although you can insure against it (actually strange because it is not a risk but a fixed fact), the curtain falls at any moment and you cannot take anything with you. You came with nothing and you leave with nothing.

Be prepared and aware of it so that you can make much easier choices in your life. Choices that make lighter and freer like the butterfly on the picture. Choices that you may enjoy, if you are honest with yourself, more.

Death is certain. The moment is not fixed and that makes it popular for others to say it was ‘completely unexpected’ to face actually always expected death.

Ever thought about the fact that after today your life is already one day shorter? That is also common to everyone. No escape. And how long that life is ... For most of us that is still unknown and it only does not seem to be in sight yet. The practice can be different and deceive.

In my experience it helps to live in a way being aware you do not die unexpectedly and that the moment always and soon can be there for you. For me it is a support to be even more thankful enjoying the value of life. Mostly not being disturbed any more by things that in the past bothered me a lot.

Expect death and enjoy even more what life really is all about. Maybe ask yourself: "What for me is the point of life to experience fulfillment?". You still now have the chance...

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

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Happy New Year 2057. You cannot start celebrating your hundredth birthday early enough.

Government and pension funds tell us that we are getting older. We therefore think that we have to work longer because that is the idea that is suggested and stimulated. After all, you have to do more and more and much longer to achieve the deadline of a full pension.

Feeling convenient with it, we do not even think about the idea and personal decision to stop earlier with working and start with doing earlier things we want to do (more) that are even dearer to us. Commerce and marketing, after all something has to be earned by others as well, are happy and already willing to offer us a ‘helping hand’ in the process.

By chance I discovered a New Year's wish for 2057 on the internet. The year in which I hope to become 100 years young. And although I am at least, so far I feel today, healthy I think it is a bit premature. However, this 2057 New Year’s wish strengthens me in the spirit of the saying: 'Hope springs eternal', so that's what I like to do.

On the other hand…, who knows with all the ups and downs of this stressful and faster digital time, the government at a certain time will adjust its vision downwards.

So therefore, every day coming a step closer towards my one hundred years (or who knows even older) birthday, I already started to celebrate by the day.

In my opinion you cannot start early enough to already celebrate your hundredth birthday. And now that I am still healthy I can already toast from day to day on a, indeed rather prematurely, and by the day more realistic, happy 2057.

And for that matter, for my two kids, I found the New Year cards for their 100th birthday too. I think they should have even more chance to reach it than I do.

Happy New Year 2057? Come on. Happy day!

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

captijninsight@gmail.com

What actually is thinking and why do we do it so often wrong?

Recently I read in a book:

“Thinking is the decision to observe and to understand, even if one is disturbed by him/herself or the others.

Thinking eventually wants to listen - to the primal sound, the prehistoric history."

Master Taisen Deshimaru

On a daily base there is a lot going on in our heads. We consume more and more information in an ongoing increasing faster pace. We barely do relax our mind, and most people do not understand the art of being able to control and even to temporary let go of their thinking processes.

When I read the quote from Taisen Deshimaru, yes it was a reason to think about our thinking process. Material for thoughts and insights I would like to share in this blog. Maybe it makes things clear and both you and me can take advantage of it.  

What is thinking and why is our thinking process so often wrong?

Thinking has first of all to do with making a decision. A decision that we sometimes consciously and mostly unconsciously take.

A decision to observe and understand. Nicely said and actually for most of us impossible. We are simply not (or maybe even better to say not anymore) able to observe without judgments. And that's where it goes wrong very quickly.

The 'even if one is disturbed by him/herself or the others' has everything to do with it. Our programming since childhood prevents us from ‘only’ observing. We observe from a basic attitude what the situation can offer us (often in relation to our wishes) or how threatening it can be. Not from a free and impartial attitude. So understanding never can be pure. We can (and want to) understand things as long as they fit in reaching our goals.

And as far as those ‘others’ are concerned, everything has to do with what we think others maybe will or can think of us. With our thinking, we are basically always alert on what we think is our outside world social acceptance. Pffff what a lot of thoughts and what an energy consumption in our heads. And does it really support us?

Our thinking practice is therefore not a free process of observing and understanding. Our programming determines the direction and often it turns out that if you keep thinking how you always thought, you always believe what you always believed. You stay in your vicious circle and everything happens to you how it always happened to you…

Free as a butterfly, without judging, observing and trying to understand, makes you listen to your soul. It allows creativity from the soul to show itself. You connect with that primal sound, that prehistory.

Listening to what actually is your purpose in life. No, that is not selfish or egoistic. It is the call of the soul to follow and live your mission. And eventually you make yourself and the world around you the most happy and ... not a single hair on your head have to think about it. It’s a free going with your inner flow.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

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Despite adversity, the emphasis on LIVING life. Enjoying day to day.

“Literally and figuratively we will not let ourselves be creased. We enjoy day to day, go out, concerts, cabaret, movies, next week a one week holiday in Germany. My own relaxation / hobby is also adequately covered, so if we keep it up for a while like this, not really something to worry about. Others may find that we have to sit in sackcloth and ashes, but we will NOT do that! "

A part of text from an email from a former colleague and still good acquaintance that I received a few weeks ago.

Strolling with my dog, Kadhow, in the at this time very humid forest I thought about how grateful I have to be. I am healthy, at least that's how it feels and I just take it for now for granted. My body works as it should. I can feel the humidity of that forest, the amazing energy, the temperature. I can hear those fantastic birds, frogs and other animals and I can point out the direction where all those different sounds come from. I can smell the fresh air and smell of budding flowers. What we popularly call 'green' actually shows to be a large pallet of thousands of green colors here. What a variation. I walk up a hill and I notice that my breathing and heartbeat are only slightly adapting to this mounting. Happy to be still fit enough not having to go to a gym for that. Not too bad for someone of my age. I feel the connection, thoughts and love of my two kids and my girlfriend even though they are not with me and my dog in the forest. Bending my knees without any problem when I take steps. If I want to stand still my body will ‘just’ and ‘automatically’ stop. I learned in this country to stop my thoughts for a while and only focus on what I want to concentrate on and the sensations this brings. Isn’t it a miracle everything functioning well? And what a beauty to connect.

And if something in the body suddenly and unexpectedly does not work well, after all for instance you always can hurt your back, then immediately your focus is on that hurting part of your back and not at all on everything else that still works fantastic. The body is only giving you a warning signal. A miracle as well. Not telling you, you need to stop enjoying the rest of your experiences. And it’s just how you deal with your mind about what you give the most attention. And again, everything you give attention grows…

The former colleague, or rather the couple, of the passage above from their email to me have ‘the right’ to complain and "resign themselves". They have to deal with various stubborn forms of cancer and Alzheimer in their life. And again… where to put the emphasis? They still focus on living their lives in the most positive and happy way.

A lot of enjoyment from day to day has to do with where you place the emphasis in your life. On what you can do or on the temporary, long-term or always 'handicaps' that occur in your life. And yes, I am still healthy and that makes talking this way maybe easy.

This couple shows that through a change of mindset, to focus on what still is possible instead of what is not possible any longer, you can consciously fully enjoy what makes LIVING life really important and gives valuable content and satisfaction.

Their way does not fit with letting themselves down or sitting in sackcloth and ashes.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

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A little more iron will help you get rid of your tiredness? Don’t make me laugh.

A few weeks ago I received an email from a good acquaintance. In that email, among other things, he wrote:

"I do not feel well and am very tired. I've had a few medical checks in recent weeks. Fortunately, the results were good. Only an iron deficiency has been detected, but that can be solved easily. It may explain my tiredness."

I had to laugh about it and wrote this to him. A little more iron will help you with your fatigue? It is good that the iron deficiency has been recognized, that at least provides a firm basis for working on this. Problem solved. I do not believe in it. You made and make yourself more and more tired and therefore step by step more and more sick. A daily tablet of iron does not help you. There is something structurally wrong. What is the real source?

Of course, a lack of iron can be the cause of tiredness don’t get me wrong and yet there is often a lot more going on. In recent years I have come across too many people with their stories that show that they are not only exhausting physically but certainly mentally. Unfortunately, a little extra iron on a daily base does not help to get rid of that exhaustion.

And the fact that he believes in iron can be the solution (or actually does not believe in it himself) is already clear from the sentence that it only ‘may explain’ his tiredness.

We often take too much and too long all kind of weight on our shoulders. Willing to care for everything and everybody and forgetting our self. We spend a lot of time on 'serving' the systems in which we function according to our ideas and, above all, to keep everyone around us happy and satisfied, not to stand out by deviating from our programming.
Satisfying others. Most of the time only showing the 'successes' (?) in our relationship, raising of our children, job, career, and so on. Not being honest to our self and not at all really satisfying ourselves and our real personal needs to be happy. Consuming lots of energy.  

The result is that we do harm ourselves and with that we make ourselves more and more ill.

Suffering of chronic fatigue? Look deeper to find the real causes. For that you need to bring the focus to and within yourself. To be honest in discovering the ways you behave and set up in relationships with others and perhaps most of all the relationship with yourself. To observe the way you hurt yourself and do not hear the voice of your soul (your Self, your inner wisdom and that playful child in you), let alone listen to it and follow it.

Become silent, make contact with yourself, listen.

Are you still in flow or do you have so many things that you only forced yourself for whatever reason to do that you have ended up in a fight with yourself? Do not set your personal goals to please the environment unnecessary too high.

What the purpose of life is, is that you exhibit your uniqueness with the exclusive set of talents you got at birth. That is called flow and not a kind of sadomasochism and absolutely does not feel like a fight. It provides a healthy tiredness of body and mind that in a life in balance in a natural way and on a daily base is restored.

No iron needed for that. Only the choice to go back to your source and your flow.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

captijninsight@gmail.com

The unhealthiness of using food supplements.

The world of healthy food supplements is growing. Nowadays it’s big and booming business.  

Marketing tells you, you need them. These most of the time very expensive and lifelong needed extras should keep you healthy and prevent you from all kind of most serious diseases.  

Wonderful and great health and recovery stories. Well trained and mostly commission driven sellers / consultants They all help the growing popularity of the continuing use of food supplements. A wonderful way to earn a living and doing business. They start with promoting and selling their family and social media ‘friends’. Easier to start because they do not want to disturb the relationship telling they are not interested.

You want to live a long and happy life? Use food supplements!

Who am I to tell you if this additions are healthy or not? I do not know, am not a specialist in this, so who am I to judge about that? The craziness, for me, is the food supplement industry actually support people to go on living an unhealthy lifestyle.

Why do you need food supplements? Just let’s face it, because as a basic thing and source you live unhealthy. And to solve that problem the food supplement industry supports you to go on living in an unhealthy way and offer their products to help you to believe you can close the ‘gap’ in unhealthiness with using their products.

Marketing campaigns in a creative and popular way most of the times even create feelings of fear of possible future unhealthiness and sickness. Encouraging to buy their food supplements. Offering the ‘magic’ way to become or stay healthy going on living unhealthy.

Going back in history, people had a much richer and often more balanced lifestyle, diet and natural fitness. If they did not feel well, yes, there was a kind of temporary supplement, a herb or other treatment. Proved and known by former generations and grandmothers.

If your main goal is to live a happy and healthy as long as possible life, think about and work on changing your lifestyle in a holistic way first instead of adding ‘healthy drugs’ as a kind of additional ‘fast food’. Be more aware of the things you eat, your diet. Keep body and mind healthy and fit in a natural way. Maybe even visit and connect with nature even more. And yes this can take you a bit more time but for sure it saves you lots of money.

Your body has the capacity to restore and recover by itself if in general you live healthy. No supplements needed.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

captijninsight@gmail.com

The very best way to your successfully ‘aging process’ slow down.

What do you do better now, than you did when you were 25?

A question we got during our last held Expats Club meeting in relation to the topic ‘Aging’.

A couple of times already I shared my thoughts in a blog about my ideas about aging. About what marketing makes use of to encourage us to buy products to let us only believe (what a joke) we can stay forever young. And about getting younger by the day.

- “Stayfor ever young? (Not) possible.” 

-  “Aging. Do not fight the process of getting older.Accept the wonderful flow to get new. A New Year's thought.” 

- “I amgetting younger by the day and am wonderfully made.”  

In relation to aging we first give attention to our physical body. A healthy diet, fitness and yoga. More and more we start to understand, many times because of influences of the East, our brain also has a lot to do with that. Meditation and all kind of brain trainings can be a helping hand in keeping the mind ‘young’.

Living in Asia for over six years now, more and more I feel connected and engaged with this body and mind approach. To be honest, I follow my own diet including a regular beer or wine to also enjoy my life during getting older (or younger by the day as I once explained). The Burgundian pleasures of life I call it. Trying to slow the aging process down, or to extend it, does not have to be a kind of torturing yourself to live a ‘happy’ longer life isn’t it?

A recent study of one of the universities in America showed actually, and it made me happy to hear that results during our August 25^th expats meeting, the very best solution to slow the aging process down has to do with our thoughts. Thoughts inspired by our soul and will. An even higher or, if you wish, deeper dimension as also Shamanism shows.

So it is not this healthy diet, not that fitness or yoga, that meditation and brain training at the first place but the way we think about it and the willpower and enthusiasm we have to live happy and long.

We need to understand that the process of aging start already at birth. And this kind of process is for every person the same. Step by step we are getting older and run out of our time. Let’s face it.

Marketing tells and shows us (photo shopping helps a lot) we can stay forever young. Hello, wake up, as everybody knows it is not true. Watch yourself under the shower ;).

As a child we want to be a grownup as soon as possible. As a grownup we long to our childhood. Does it make any sense?  Are we ever satisfied?

During a group dialogue I was in during our meeting one of the group members said: “At our age we live our life backwards.” And I believe this is true. I can be grateful to be able to live my life backwards. Being much more aware, let me call it conscious, about the situation and the life I was in and am in.

Our environment helps us to believe that our aging process has everything to do with walking backwards step by step. It’s end of your time. Nothing to reach any more. It is nearly done. Not really a happy time to face… Yes, as I said, we run out of time. Totally true (for every one of us). And ask yourself what do I want make of that period? Giving attention to what, most of the time physically, you are not able to do any longer? Regrets about what you did not do? No lust any longer? Complaining, as many people do, and thinking about “the good old days? For me the days living now are really the good old days. And I am thankful for that. Hope I can go on with it for a long time. 

Thinking about the question on top of this blog actually worked out to get a great understanding of making steps forwards instead of backwards. Getting younger by the day.

To give you some examples of my answers on this question (be sure I can already write a book about it).

# I stopped to try to reach goals.

# I am finished with my ideas about what other people maybe think of and about me.

# I discovered I do not have to be anybody (ego) to still survive in the system.

# I learned to breathe and stand still. Asking myself; “Is it worth to deal with, worry about, or suffer about all I hear and see?”.

# I appreciate nature as a life-mirror much more.

# I am less dependent to my programming and what the system tries to let me believe as ‘the truth’.

# I do not need newspapers, television or radio (the present social media I did not have).

# I am much more grateful.

# I live happier and that’s success for me.

And during the short time we got for answering this question every individual got to express his or her first ideas I also mentioned. “What I absolutely still do the same is to enjoy, listen and support the playful child in myself!”

And, in my opinion, this ‘inner child’ being part of the Soul (in connection with the Self and the inner wisdom) has everything to do, no is really the main thing, to influence our thoughts. So also our thoughts about aging. Influencing in a positive way the duration of the process.

Be and stay optimistic and enthusiast (my father was totally right expressing already this ideas in relation to positive thinking), be playful and humorous (my mother was totally right as well) and stop being influenced by all the judgments of your outside world and marketing.

Be the playful person you want to be in the first place. Go for LIVING life and make the best of it without complaining. Stop, or at least diminish your judging (out of respect try to understand and learn about other persons programming and thoughts). And yes, also exercises for the physical body and mind support in a positive way. But our thought process is the main influence in slowing down our aging process.  

Over two hundred expats joined this meeting and dialogue. Really all of them agreed they live a much happier life now than at the age of 25 years young. They are also more grateful now.

And yes, this has also to do with the possibility (and the guts) this worldwide expats generation I am part of got. Possibilities lot of people in the present generations have even more I guess.

In the first place set (or change) your thoughts. Focus them, out of your soul, on enjoying the things that really matter in your life and let your thinking process supporting soul free in still living your purpose. Like every other person… you run out of time and finally have to leave everything…

Note: Picture of my 93 year young dad many years ago and just before he died, in a Dutch newspaper. Still sometimes acting as a massage therapist and yoga instructor at that time for elderly.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

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Problems and even suffering in relationships. The need for freedom in bond.

In one of his presentations the Australian engaged speaker without arms and legs Nick Vujicic expresses:  “And then you see all of these teenagers and college people who are single and they are like: “O, I just cannot wait to get married.” And their goal is to get married and many times after a while it worked out it was not all that they thought. They think, “oh my life’s gonna get easier when I get married.” But, Nu-uh.” If you ain’t happy single, you ain’t gonna be happy married.”

Last week I had a couple of conversations about relationships. Not finding the right match. Not really being happy in the relationship. Not knowing how to go on.

People are willing to suffer a lot instead of feeling and being happy in, with or getting a relationship.

January 27^th 2017 I already wrote a blog about ‘A relationship does not makeyou happier’. Main thing in that blog was the statement of Nick Vujicic first of all to work on being and staying happy yourself. You are the one that lives 24 hours a day with yourself…

People are willing to change themselves (at least they think they can) to ‘fit’ in a relationship. The feeling of loneliness or not being lonely (instead of the feeling of being alone (all-one)) is pushing people forward to suffer in change to fit in the ‘perfect’ match. Wonderful selfies to show their outside happiness together. Often as two lonely people who temporary found a way not to feel lonely anymore.

What is, was or gets wrong?

I ask myself the question why I should change myself to fit in a relationship. In two of my conversations this week I spoke to people who ‘lost’ themselves in their change to save their relationship. If you already cannot be yourself in a love relationship (anymore)… how can you ever feel happy and free in this relationship? Starting a relationship is not a future commitment to, most of the time together, be in a kind of prisoncell.

It is just a matter two puzzle pieces do not fit in the right way. And if you are honest with yourself you know, now, it never did fit in the right way. You forced yourself into it. 

If you lost or are losing your freedom in bond you start to force yourself. Actually dripping, filling, yourself more and more with unhappiness feelings. And this proces does not only effects yourself but also your partner, family, friends and surroundings.

Freedom in bond? Yes. That’s not telling you to be single again. Stay true and honest in your relationship but be and stay yourself and do what you want to do both responsible for your relationship. So yes, that needs conversation and understanding. Freedom in bond has to do with supporting the love and happiness for and in yourself. With things you like. Out of this overflowing happiness you can share with your partner and grow in your loving relationship together.

A matter of trust and trust can only be 100 % or zero. There is nothing in between…


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

captijninsight@gmail.com

The awareness of again a new and next phase in my life.

Note: Today's blog may be a bit difficult to just read and / or understand. Still, I want to share it with you.

If you are really and deeper interested, please feel invited to read it over again. Feel free to email me and ask more about it or to learn more about it.

Thankfully and for over five years I served many guests at The Pavana Chiang Mai resort (before The Spa resort Chiang Mai) in especially the mind and spiritual part of the resort’s at that time holistic healthcare approach.

Since February this year I am not working for the resort any longer still happily living at the adjacent Spa Resort Residences. I felt a bit pity for not being ‘on duty’ after this wonderful time. Not being able, the way I did, to share the many insights I got, and even more I still will get in meditation, Kundalini awareness yoga, Buddhist philosophy, life and talent coaching and energy work. Insights that helped many former guests to discover themselves and find their own inside latent solutions to solve difficult situations and transformations in their life they were facing and to come into flow again.

And as always if one door closes, automatically another door opens. Although very happy living here, this February situation did not feel comfortable to me. Feeling my passion ongoing pushing inside myself to go on growing by sharing to give purpose to my mission. Being active and enthusiastic it felt as being in, and facing, a ‘gap’. A temporary space and time of doing nothing. Nothing to worry about. Just and only sometimes a bit rough.

As I learned, things like this always have a reason. The thing is you do not know the reason yet and for our programmed human brain it feels easier to know the outcome, the goal.

Space and time to think, to contemplate, to explore and go one step deeper into myself. What is the meaning, what do I have to learn, what is the message? Am I really not growing? Wanting to work by myself again on it, instead of trusting and waiting (I will come to that later) for what shows up.

Time to open up, actually to accept the 'doing nothing' and to trust something else and even better that's already waiting for you will arrive. Exactly at the right moment that 'other dimension' will knock at your door. You cannot force this proces. I just and only needs its own time. 
Indeed it turned out into a feeling of again the awareness of the birth of the next phase or step in my life.

Friday July 13^th I got an unexpected and amazing email from a friend who did not know about my situation yet. Starting with: “Hi Frans, Trust all is well. Did your changes appear this month or still on the way?” He explained to me how he learned from a Mexican friend that existence has a knowing of its own, The more time we are in a ‘gap’ we seem to be part of its infinite intelligence. Intuition blooming as the mind drops occasionally, accepting more to come…

He attached a wonderful picture of a gap in the sky to invigorate his message and to make it visual. And writing this here and now, actually and even more makes my new insight clearer as opening and connection between the infinite, unlimited, and our limited dimensions.

It took me a while to consider and to understand. For me it has everything to do with again a personal and inner energy shift. With being even more present in the moment, not judging, shifting the focus of my attention inside my body and accepting. Being even more aware of the deeper and underlying response of my senses and to listen/see/feel subtle energy shifts.

And starting that day more things became clear to me only because my change of attention. Everything you give attention grows…

Wednesday July 25^th from another friend I got an unexpected and amazing group email giving me the opportunity, only within a time-frame of that day, to watch for free a documentary in relation to shamanic healing. She as well did not know the situation I was in and did not know anything of my basic shamanic talent in my so called “Tree of life” of talents and gifts (see picture). Several parts of the documentary gave me goosebumps. More and more I got the feeling it carried a personal message for me.

The closet opened. More and more puzzle pieces fell in place. Being more and more connected with nature. Without even knowing already a couple of years ago I stopped marketing myself, my ‘business’ (actually I never saw it as any business but as my mission). Not being on any social media any longer, no I-Phone, no watch. More alone (all-one). No, not being a hermit or feeling lonely. After years of waiting finally getting my new name out of India a couple of months ago. Working with labyrinths and Tantra. With percussion instruments like singing bowls, gongs, Tingshas, Ghantas, and drums. With crystals, Dorjes and Phurbas. With rituals. No, nothing ‘floaty’. Still very connected and grounded.  

No recommendations from former students or guests on my website any more to promote my activities. I am free and can live without. The time is there for me I do not have to be anyone any longer, do not ‘need’ for guests or students at all, do not have to 'work' on sharing my insights and wisdom. The time for me is there to understand I can belong to myself. Infinity is patient... And being patient, I trust guests will find me and I have nothing to do for that. I even stopped the contract of my website for the next period starting beginning 2019. What happens, happens.

Belonging to myself helps me to listen to and learn from my soul and mission. My top three talents in relation to my mission in life, as my tree of life in 2011 during my study to become a certified talent coach showed me, are first of all Shaman, supported by Philosopher and Miracle worker.

I feel today the time is there to stop believing and sometimes even hiding that but to trust it. I found myself even more again, can do without a persona any longer to survive. Opening up to grow further on the shamanic path.

Yes, I am available and can wait for guests and students to find me...

In the meantime I will get and find ways to feed my three top-talents and open myself to be used by the infinite to serve and more and more to ‘heal’. Two very close and professional relationships, working with and through me.

Soon I will start to travel. Feeding my 'Vagabond' talent at the grow point of my tree, and see who and what crosses my paths to grow by sharing. My way is going to show me. 
Still using the practices and build up knowledge from my former stages of developing in life. Step by step flowing into re-balancing disturbed human energy fields to create more flow.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

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House rules. The golden guidelines in our house.

Many people who walk through the small street at the wonderful place I live here in Thailand, stop in front of my house and take a picture of our golden guidelines of our house. I placed them outside as well as inside our house as a welcome and reminder about the way we want to connect with and respect other people. And sure it is an invitation to be treated by our guests the same way. 

Last week somebody asked me why I never published them in one of my blogs. Not a bad idea so… here they are:  

Welcome and feel invited to our home

Respect our Golden guidelines in this house:

Be yourself

(Show your own uniqueness. Everybody else is already taken.)

Loosen desires

(Be grateful for what you more than enough already have and stop clinging to attachments.)

Enjoy LIVING life

(Life is valuable. Stop running. Live mindful. Fulfill your purpose.)

Offer new chances

(Forgive. Realize everybody has his/her best interest & heart but sometimes don’t show it.)

Express your feelings

(The most wonderful way in understanding and connect deeply.)

Disconnect to connect

(Enjoy face-to-face conversation and energy flow between each other.)

Enjoy (the) Here & Now

(You only can touch life in the present moment. The only thing that has no end.)

Hug often and love more

(The only real currency in life.)

Keep the positive energy in

(Stay healthy, happy & really and truly to life. Keep calm. Relax. Absorb. Recharge.)

The clock won’t find you here!

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn Insight. Catalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

www.captijninsight.com

captijninsight@gmail.com