Friday, January 29, 2016

When you die you do not pass away. No faith required.

No faith or life philosophy is needed to trust – and that is more than believing – that when you die you do not pass away. Believe it or not. The only thing you have to do is to give it some time for yourself to think this over.
When faith/religion, like me, is part of your life this thought will be even more supported.

Why am I so firmly in this conviction?

As you sow you will reap.
Everything you do in life will leave a mark. You are not on this world to only survive. With your unique set of talents and gifts you are here to do something. With your contribution you leave a mark.

Nature teaches that just one seed of a tree contains a whole forest. And yes, for this the seed needs the most wonderful habitat. For a seed in nature this is just a matter of chance, getting the opportunity and best living conditions.
As human beings we have a choice. Just ask yourself, what is your most stimulating and/or inspiring living environment to flourish and to share what you all have to share, in the best way, with the world around. And a question, closely related to this; Do you really respond to that answer or your inner call? And when it is really not possible to live at that place – so skip any General Excuse and be creative – what is the second best place?

Living your mission, you always, young or older, leave something for this generation or a next one. Being more aware of this, you serve the world around you in a more conscious way. This has nothing to do with your place, rank or position in society. Give what you have inside, your uniqueness, to share. Let the best environment for you stimulate you. Your harvest will go on spreading.

Memories remain.
All your actions in life, no matter if they are big or small, leave a memory. Good examples or ideas you made,  automatically will get a follow-up by others. The things you brought in are working on. You never will and never have lived 'for nothing'. Memories are and remain the bright spots that give others strength to continue living. And you are able to support this. After all, nothing disappears forever if you keep the memory.

If you have kids, for 50% they come through you. 
Did you ever thought about the idea you came for 50% out of your father and for 50% out of your mother? Does not matter if you are happy with this or not. And your father and mother came for 50% out of their father and their mother and so forth. So even your grandparents and grand grandparents continue their life contribution in you. Just in the same way you will go on in your children, when you have them or will get them. 

One of my cousins once checked our family genealogy.
Amazing to see how former family generations go on in and with yourself. Where the family has its worldwide roots. It is not only fun to see where you come from but also gives hereditary influences that perhaps still you may or may not have inside. Great to explore and to experience from these discoveries. How easy can it be.

As an addition life philosophy and/or belief/religion.
The life philosophy, Buddhism, teaches that you can see your physical body as the temporary temple of your soul. The soul wants to grow and to reach that goal (fulfil its life- or soul mission) what it has to reach. A different word for dead is exanimate (without a soul). Actually you can see a dead person as ‘only’ the physical body without the soul. The soul has left. It is free again to use the opportunity – after a period of rest/recharge, making up its balance sheet, and build up wisdom – to make a next step in development. The Buddhism calls this ‘again being’. That’s more than reincarnation. It’s a going on of the lifecycle of the soul. And everything you learned in ‘former lives’, nothing to do with study, you take with you (build up wisdom).

All kind of religions / believes pretend there is more after dead. It is a kind of letting go of the physical body and a form of resurrection. So also here the soul leaves the body. A movement or journey as so nicely said an ‘earthly’ to an I call it 'spiritual' place.
Just think of the idea, after all - sitting in silence, in thoughts connected and with your eyes closed – you still can have a conversation with your loved ones and masters in life who are no longer physically present on this earth.

If you are a religious person you may wonder how it would be possible that if God, who out of his love puts you on this earth for a reason, could go on with his work into eternity without you? There is more between heaven and earth ...

Do the things you have to do in life. Be aware this has a general supporting meaning to the world around you. Doing this you will never pass away. Try to be conscious of that in your every action.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.”

Friday, January 22, 2016

When the boy or the girl is happy… more happiness!

“When the boy in a man is happy, the man is happy.”
“When the girl in a woman is happy, the woman is happy.”

Just a statement, made by a CEO of an international organization in Hong Kong, I heard during one of my Hikes.

When we grow up in life we start to ‘behave’. We conduct ourselves towards others in accordance with the accepted norms of a society or a group. We lose - but more and more long to - our childhood. 
Childhood. The time of discovering, exploring, the guts to pass thresholds, playing (some the jester), touching and learning life, of being curious in connecting. No to much worried of adapting to culture, sometimes religion and/or environment.

Because of things that have hurt us or are not acceptable in our society or group, we start to learn how to deal with a couple of main primary life issues; How to stay safe and how to survive? So without even being aware of this, we cover ourselves with protection veils or in some cases even harnesses. Without even knowing we tie the child in us and try not to listen to the boy or girl inside any more.

Growing older and older there can be a period we more and more long to listen to our inner boy, or girl, the child inside. Getting children can be such a period. Because of them we grant ourselves sometimes to behave as a child. And be aware what it, most of the times, brings. Big smiles, lots of energy, real connection, living (again for a short while?).

There is nothing wrong with listening more and more to your boy and girl inside. Listen to them. You know how to deal with the signals they give. Follow them. Be playful, laugh, smile, explore. You do not only make yourself more happy. Your different energy also will influence the world around you in a positive way. 
See situations and the world around not always as serious. It is only YOU who create your world.

Listen to your inner boy or girl and make them happy.

“When the boy in a man is happy, the man is happy.”
“When the girl in a woman is happy, the woman is happy.”

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.”

Friday, January 15, 2016

Your life as a tree…

In my neighbours garden is a huge tree. Several guests who already visited me for sure remember this tree. As you can see on the picture, my neighbours in the evening switch on a floodlight to lighten it. Every day I pass this tree walking up to my work place. Several times I just stand still for a while. There is a lot to discover watching this tree. What a wonderful word ‘dis-cover’. You take the cover of something to make something visible for you that was already waiting there for you. Just only by standing still.

When I work with guests about challenging their talents and gifts part of the sessions is making their own tree of life. All the locations of this tree have something to tell. The tree has an underlying archetype of the Kabbala[1]. You get information about your growth point, your connection with the earth, connections with your environment, connection with yourself, with passion and compassion and with your mission in life.

My neighbours tree shows it all (I think like all trees do but this one is inviting me).
It is a robust, playful tree. Sometimes, during a storm or heavy rain showers, braches just break down and fall down. They are not able to show resilience or to carry the weight/load any longer. Time to let go. Leaves drop and create space for new leaves to come the next season. There is a time to recharge, to flourish, to grow… And yes, all together we call it LIVING. The tree is just a mirror to show us how life is supposed to be. Hours and hours you can philosophize about it.

The tree itself does not make a single effort to look nice or to be attractive. It just is. A way of being. Being there, being available. Attracting to only some people, for this tree most children. Some people do not even notice. They are too busy with other things. It does not upset the tree.

A ‘simpel’ tree. Mirror of the meaning of life. Just be who you are and do not upset yourself of what other people think of that. Some like you and really want to stand still to connect with you, others don’t. Who cares? Be like a tree.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.”

[1] Kabbala is a Hebrew word meaning 'acknowledgment' or 'revelation'. Kabbalah, under other things, seeks to define the nature of the universe and the human being, the nature and purpose of existence. 

Friday, January 1, 2016

Emptiness...there is something in.

Start this new year with emptiness.

When my children where young we played a lot together in the garden, in nature or at the camping place during holidays. I remember us playing in the garden catching my daughters cat named ‘Poelie’. We took an empty cardboard box. Lifted it on one side with a small branch. Connected a thin piece of rope to the branch and put some cat-food under the box. Poelie smelled the food, went underneath the ‘roof’ formed by the cardboard box and then one of my children pulled the rope so the cat was caught in the box. Only for a short time because it jumped and ran away to repeat this play over and over again. Funny to do and see. The cat enjoyed the attention and finding freedom every time again.

Just playing with an empty box. It connects me with the wonderful thing called emptiness. Emptiness is a great source of creativity. Emptiness does not at all means nothingness.

Think about this;

  • Because drums, bells, etc., are empty on the inside they produce their unique sound when we hit it.
  • Because guitars, violins, etc. are empty on the inside they produce their unique sounds when we touch the strings.
  • Because trumpets, flutes, etc., are empty on the inside the produce their unique sounds when we blow them.
  • Because the mirror is empty, it mirrors.

Nothing is added and nothing is taken away. Any judgments are only made by yourself or by the audience listening or watching.

Thinking of the box, as I described before, my idea came to thinking out of the box. Thinking out of the box is a main thing in creativity. Why ‘out of the box’? Because in our daily life our personal ‘box’ is overloaded full. There is no emptiness left.

Wikipedia: “Creativity is the phenomenon whereby something new and somehow valuable is formed. The created item may be intangible (such as an idea, a scientific theory, a musical composition or a joke) or an original physical object (such as an invention, a literary work, or a painting).

Emptiness you can see as the cradle of creativity. Emptiness is a well.
You can create emptiness to stop looking for things outside and to find the silence to connect and search inside. Silence is not the absence of something but the emptiness to be aware of the presence of everything.

You only have to create and then touch your emptiness to discover the uniqueness in creativity you have inside.

Emptiness, there is something in it.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.”