Friday, July 27, 2018

The benefits of getting up early. Moving with the gifts of nature. Gold and silver in balance. A great experience and ... how do you do that?

There is an old saying: "Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise" My father lived this quote and I discovered myself that it is true.

I have been living in a small village in the north of Thailand for more than six years now. The people who live here are connected to nature and move in with it.
One of the experiences, which I am now used to, is that the day starts here at six in the morning. The monks walk their daily morning Tak Bat rounds (begging for food / alms offering to monks) everywhere in this country, so in our village as well, at around half past seven. The villagers must be ready and prepared for that. Getting up around half past six therefore is quite normal (just like going to sleep at around ten o'clock in the evening). For me now a total accepted and used, energetic and great change of life and lifestyle. Almost daily the conscious experience of sunrise and sunset when it is not cloudy and ... enough hours rest.

Every person has his own pattern of getting up and going to bed. And if you are honest with yourself, the time after about ten o'clock in the evening means that you watch television, check the Internet and your social media and maybe play a game. Often a form of 'hanging around not really knowing what to do but not ready yet to go to bed'. You call it relaxation to make it even more acceptable for yourself but in fact it is no more than an established part of your lifestyle. A habit because you have taught yourself that you cannot go to sleep.
In the past, I even caught myself trying to use that time to prepare for my busy schedule for the next day and to read documents for the meetings. My daughter would say, "Did you feel a bit crazy in your head?" And now I say she was right.

If people who want to join a health program here and hear that we start at six o'clock they feel it as a huge offer to bring and sometimes it raises deep questions. In practice it always works out in a positive way and actually used to be very simple. It has no more and no less to do with how you adjust yourself to the time difference (time zone) compared to your 'homeland'. Adjusting is simply a given thing if you travel to a country that has a different time zone. And most of the time does not cause any problems or maybe only for a couple of days and then you are used to it. So immediately start that rhythm to wake up at six in the morning is a simple trick. Maybe it is not even a trick but just that adjustment to change your schedule immediately to that time.

Have you ever wondered why there are time zones in the world? Didn’t that have to do with how nature adjusts to the sun and the moon because the globe is in an ongoing turning round process? My sister sometimes reminds me when she sends a message late in the evening and says she knows that I already woke up that moment.

We are absolutely not aware of what nature offers us of (free of charge) energy and often live our lives opposite. Complaining we do not feel totally healthy... Buddhism teaches that, in a natural circle, the day is connected with 'Gold' (the sun, energy and action, to the right side of the meditating Buddha) and the night with 'Silver', (the moon, recharging/recovering and supporting the raise of inner wisdom through only rest, left side of the meditating Buddha). And those two have to be in balance for optimal health, for optimal gaining wisdom and yes indeed for 'wealth'.

Especially in the West, we cause damage to this movement, and with it to ourselves. In the early morning we stay asleep and in the evening we continue to wake up even longer.
In the same West, we calculate almost everything in our lives. What it can bring us personally for our lives, for our health and so on. We often skip to calculate in relation to our lifestyle and behavior. Not even realizing that we decline a free offer.

Be honest, a 'morning person' or an 'evening person' has only to do with a pattern you have learned and with that with a grown lifestyle habit. Sometimes not being willing (because yes you are able) to wake up early is even seen as inner laziness.

Mind you, there is nothing wrong with 'debus', but with structural getting up late you literally leave and do not make use of a lot of energy, opportunities, creativity and possibilities.

What the 'gain' can be? Only a few examples:
# First you move along with the day and night rhythm (and the energy) of nature. You benefit from that free of charge energy. From the natural offer to support you in action and recovery.
# Your mind is fresh, can do more, in the early morning, good to think deeper about things (or to meditate) and be sure you are more creative.
# You have time for yoga or physical fitness, a much better alternative than doing things in the evening giving you even an energy boost before going to bed.
# You have the opportunity to prepare your day better. Much easier, if you would like, to prepare your agenda for the day. To really introduce a new habit instead of using the time you actually need to calm the mind down reading stuff for the next day as I did for many years.
# Because most people do not follow your (new) behavior, you have private time. Time you are not disturbed by social media, colleagues, work or your children. So you create time for yourself.
# Your effectiveness and productivity during the day is better and the profits of this (also in money) will benefit you.

And so I can go on and on to share more benefits.

You will never succeed in changing your habit? Of course you can! Who is in charge of your life and lifestyle? Who is the ‘boss’? Stop with your general excuses to fool yourself.

How do you adjust your rhythm?

It is said that it can be done slowly, step by step and yes, that is a possibility, but just like stopping smoking it is a question of really willing to do and therefore simply (no not always easy) by straightaway stopping. That can be hard but it’s most of the times the best option. And so it is with adjusting your day and night rhythm or balance.

If you want to experience the gain and benefits of getting up early, you are standing up from one day to the next ... early. Know that your body does not really appreciate it. And here comes that 'boss' around the corner again, that manager of your life. If you are really the manager of your life and you want it then just do it. Change your behavior from one moment to the next. And yes, that is a bit uncomfortable for a few days / nights because your learned habit protests against your new desired habit. Actually it is exactly the same as adjusting to a different time zone if you go for a holiday to a different continent.

You go to bed same time as was 'normal' before. Midnight or maybe at one o'clock or half past one and you get up at half past six in the morning. Really? Yes really!
Your body will be protesting for a few days but YOU and only YOU are going to rule your life and your body quickly adapts to that deeper will and that deeper consciousness. You will find that you quickly, because your body want to give itself recovery time, long for going to sleep around ten o'clock. No months required.

Who knows ..., not just worth a try but just a decision to change your lifestyle that, as my father already lived and showed makes, healthier, wealthier and wiser.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

Friday, July 20, 2018

Your days are full of happiness moments. You only have to see them and pick them up.

Two weeks ago I received an email from an aquintance. He shared an experience with me that during yoga class he had been asked to think during the meditation part of that class about a moment of experienced happiness in the past week or weeks. He told me that nothing had come up in his mind. It made him very sad.

I told him in my reply that our environment and marketing have taught us to believe what and how happiness moments should be. I too many years ago, before my accident and during the long-term process of dealing with my burn-out, did not see happiness any more. The last years I discovered - and now I know -, on a daily base I just passed by this wonderful free gifts and actually was standing on top of them. I learned, driven by my environment and my own thought process and mindset, not to see them anymore.

Happiness does not make our economy happy because you cannot earn money on it. Creating unhappiness feelings make people buy. Out of my recovery process and also because of living here in Thailand I am aware that there are dozens of moments of happiness during a day and it is just a matter of picking them up.

Just to give you an idea of some of those moments of happiness that many times appear during my day?

Waking up in the morning and when I look outside, I sleep with open curtains, the beautiful daily different reflections of the light and sun in the clouds and the sky. The soft and wonderful smile on my girlfriend's tinted face. The wagging tail of my always happy dog when I come downstairs. Ready to jump on the scooter to go to the forest in search of new discoveries such as the beautiful feather we found this morning (see photo). It made me happy. The cheerful fantastic sounds of birds that awaken, night sounds that fade away and the new day sounds that become louder to serve the daytime.

Or the mirror lesson of a 'normal' tree that shows me the seasons of life with being willing to give and receive. Showing the natural cycle of flowering, harvest and especially the necessary rest to support this yearly process. 'Simply' (?) the experience of being able to see, feel and breathe. The sleepy greeting of my neighbor who gives our street dog and her cats food in the morning. The waving school children in their van on their way to school. The rice farmer, up to his knees in the mud in the field, raising his arm to say good morning from a distance to me seeing me with my dog ​​on the scooter in the early morning. Singing in the church. The joyful reaction to a given small tip after the refueling of my scooter by a boy or girl from the Caltex petrol station. The kindly and with a big swing opened glass door of the Krungsri bank by the guard and his playful 'Good to see you again' with a big smile. The man who is always on the corner at the traffic light in front of his 'Silly Pietje' shop always saying something friendly when I have to stop in front of the traffic light. The almost daily reunion with my two kids on Skype.

An e-mail from a former guest with a sincere ‘thank you’ for listening and / or paying attention to him or her. The weekly 'Hello my good friend' of the ‘chicken selling lady’ on the Friday market. The for Dutch concepts 'crazy' and colorful clothing that I sometimes wear and in which I feel myself. Just being myself without worrying about what others (whoever) might think of it anymore ... I can go on for hours. And ... this kind of happiness does not cost anything at all?

Open your eyes and daily increase your awareness of the free available moments of happiness you are standing on top of. It is just a matter of mindset.

Bad for the economy and so incredibly good for yourself and therefore for all those others you care about as well.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

Friday, July 13, 2018

Meditation helps - and gives power - to survive.

There is a lot to learn from the experiences of the trapped 12 young boys and their coach in the Tham Luang cave (Great cave) which nestles in the border town of Mae Sai within Chiang Rai province in the Northern part of Thailand. As a graduated master in Crisis and disaster management this whole search and rescue operation had and still has my full attention.

One of the things, living for over six years in Thailand now and more and more in to Buddhism, meditation, yoga and life- & talent coaching, that got my attention is the servant leadership of the young football coach and the way he made use of his talents and gifts to help the team to survive.

Following the news and background of this only 25 years old boy I discovered he was a monk for many years. In Thailand that is not so special. For every Thai boy it is an honor to his family, and especially to his mom, to be a monk for at least three months before getting married.

This young coach served longer as a monk and so automatically learned and practiced deeply the skills of Samatha and Vipassana meditation.

Why I think this coach showed great ‘servant leadership’ is that he really took care of his team in the first place. Offering his food and water to the boys instead of using it for himself. Showing them ‘survival skills’ and using his meditation skills and talents to help the group to sustain longer in an, under the given conditions, as best as possible physical and mental health and condition.

He offered and guided the group, trapped in the darkness, meditation to calm the body and mind down. To focus and concentrate on a positive outcome, to use Metta (being open to send out and receive loving kindness from love ones outside). And once again, as I wrote in my last week blog, this shows the valuable influence of positive thoughts, intentions and even prayer. Meditation helped to reduce the use of the available amount of oxygen in the small space they had to survive.

Meditation calms body and mind down and keeps you still alert. And with diminishing the use of oxygen he created a longer time-frame for the search and rescue operation to find and rescue them.

Although the rescue operation had its very sad death toll, everybody worked with the best intentions and efforts to save the team and they succeeded. A more than great job, international cooperation and decision making.

And only one out of many of the great lessons of this dangerous operation…Meditation helped offering the power to survive.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.



Friday, July 6, 2018

The power of positive thoughts and intentions. Miracles exist! My heart beat faster.

Last Monday evening late in Thailand I was waiting until my girlfriend was back home safely after a happy weekend together. Her flight had been delayed because of bad weather conditions and after arrival she had to cope with a queue of over a hundred people waiting for a taxi to her home.

Thailand was and still is under the spell of the 12 missing children and their coach in a cave in Chiang Rai. And certainly because of my background in the world of international crises and disaster management this had (and still has) my attention.
By coincidence, I witnessed on television directly that evening how the news came in that the children and their coach were found safe and alive after nine days. Literally my heart started to beat faster. International cooperation works and miracles exist.

Great to see and really feel the explosion of energy of this discovery by this children, their hoping family members (who are number one in Thai culture), rescue and social workers and the population here in Thailand.

From my father I once learned the power and influence positive thoughts and intentions have. And for me the experiences so far with the children and their coach in the cave in Chiang Rai Thailand are another proof of it.

Positive thoughts, positive intentions, and yes also praying (the power of intentions and often also in combination with sound such as the Japanese doctor and scientist Masuru Emoto with his photos of crystals so 'crystal clear' shows), has a gigantic positive and influence and are even healing in some cases.

And whether or not you believe in a God does not matter that much in relation to it. With your positive thoughts you generate strong positive energy that benefits everyone. The children who are locked up, the emergency workers, the family members and even your neighbors who are engaged with the scene. It really does add power. It supports the process of 'do not give up'. There is hope until you give up. And hope is living.

Omar Reygadas, one of the 33 miners who was trapped underground in the Atacama desert, near CopiapĆ³, (Chile, South America) for 69 days, said faith and prayer, as well as humor, had helped he and his colleagues stay positive while they waited to be rescued.

The best pilots are ashore and we all know better solutions to solve the problems the Thai authorities have to face. Various media give us the evidence about it. Not always out of a positive approach.
And again as sometimes said; ‘It is the tone that makes the music’.

Do the media have any idea of what is happening and under what most bizarre circumstances? The positive so far now is that they are still alive and with our positive intentions and thoughts we support a salvation that hopefully will ensure that they all will come out safe and alive.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)


Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.