Friday, May 25, 2018

Finding back past happiness feelings for free and a wonderful mirror as well


I remember very well how I, as a young boy, on my yellow with black autoped went to my primary school in Bloemendaal, The Netherlands. I had to pass a tunnel for pedestrians under the railway. Around that tunnel were lots of most wonderful smelling bushes.

At a certain moment, it must have been somewhere in the beginning of May, I heard when I walked with my autoped on my hand (because regularly a policeman was checking if people were really walking or you got a fine, a soft squeaking from the bushes. There was a bird's nest with young sparrows.

Almost every day I stopped on my way to and back from school for a while. Without disturbing those birds I saw them grow up. It gave me a super feeling of happiness, bliss. And actually also a seed in me was planted starting to like birds. It was therefore a great experience to be able to live with an owl here in Thailand for almost four years.

About a week or two ago, again very early in the morning, I opened my front door. Less than one and a half meters away there was a beautiful tropical bird in my conifer. And yes, a bird’s nest. Still empty. The next day holding one egg, the day after another and finally there were three eggs.

My door is always wide open when I am at home. And against the insects I have special mosquito screen doors. Two stools are located inside and next to the front door. From one of those stools I can observe the nest from very close without disturbing the birds. It feels like a kind of meditation and the most fantastic thing for me is, now that the three birds have just been born, that I have completely regained that whole and past feeling of happiness and bliss from that little boy Frans of that time. It is a more than fantastic experience and ... it costs nothing at all.

Isn’t it too crazy for words that we are nearly all only running, always wanting more, reach goals, being very concerned about what the world around us may not think of us, disconnected with our new best electronic friends, totally lost this kind of super simple things that make us happy?

And ... it's just a matter of stopping. Of standing still. Just take that stool and fully enjoy the scene, doing nothing else than observing and enjoy what you get served?

Great and thankful to be able to experience that again. Connecting with nature, still just in your front yard, nothing complicated and experiencing that great feeling of bliss that I lost for years back again, for free.

And actually for me it was a big mirror as well. 
Birds and very young children are blessed above human beings (above their first living years) in that they have no concepts and do not worry of the future, do not suffer about the past, no words in their heads, and no anxiety about what their fellows think of them. The same I had being that still young boy on my autoped. 

The mirror of my experience with this bird's nest in my front yard shows me step by step I am making progress in reaching that blessing again.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

Friday, May 18, 2018

That cat is too fat! Why do we usually respond out of a negative basic attitude?

My neighbor has two beautiful Persian cats. The balcony of her house is adjacent to the garden of the hotel pool, just like my house. Her cats - sitting on that balcony - often enjoy the view, the tropical birds and / or the sun.

Recently there was an American family with small children who went to the pool. One of the small children saw the beautiful white fluffy long-haired cat and said right away: "That cat is too fat!"

Her story brought me to this week blog.
Tourists in the city I talk with, hotel guests and, honestly I sometimes catch myself as well, often respond out of this negative basic attitude. "She is too late", "he is too thick", "she is weird and sweats a lot", "such a swimsuit is old-fashioned", "what he/she is wearing is disgusting", and so on. We continuously add labels. Usually those labels are negative and adding them, without in fact being aware, we try to put ourselves on a ‘higher’ or ‘better’ plan or standard.

“That cat is too fat" is a personal condemnation from what you have taught yourself how things should be or should be done. From that belief you immediately reject what you see and indicate that you know better how it should be. Actually you only know different.

Why is it that we usually respond primarily out of that negative basic attitude and why do we do that?

Compare, just for fun, the serene and simple splendor of a rose in bloom, with the tension and restlessness of your life. The rose has a gift that you lack: It is perfectly content to be itself. Is has not been programmed from birth, as we have been, to be dissatisfied with itself. So it has not the slightest urge to be anything other than it is.
That is why it possesses the artless grace and absence of inner conflict that among humans is only found in (very) little children and mystics.
If that flower does not attract your attention in color and smell, then there is nothing wrong with that flower. No disturbance, let alone urge to meet your wishes.

That is why it, so to speak, absolutely does not worry about simply being him- or herself. No conflict within itself. Something that actually marks only babies, young toddlers and mystics. Not being content with yourself is literally being brought up and ... a lot of money is earned on it.

The Buddhist doctrine indicates that our reactions by our brain arises from 51 different learned or programmed basis factors (mental afflictions) or values. Only 11 of them contribute in a constructive way, a healthy response. 14 Are neutral and no less than 26 contributes to an unhealthy, poisonous and destructive response. And as far as the latter is concerned, it is not only pathogenic (sickening), degrading or negative influencing your environment. It also works negatively towards yourself.

It turns out that we have learned in our lives, as a kind of security or survival mechanism, a way to be able to continue to belong to a group, family or culture, to respond primarily from those 26 negative base values. After all, you indicate what you belong to and that you reject everything else.

Instead of responding directly from that negative response, for example, mindful communication teaches to turn that energy that you would use for your reaction into a form of nosy curiosity. "How can it be that someone else has a different opinion than me?", "How can someone else behave differently from me?", “Why do I think this cat is thick and doesn’t it belong to that specie, Etc ..

With that you do not let go of your specific opinion and that which is true for you, or you do not have to follow that other person. You open yourself to discover a greater truth, to learn. And with that you create a better connection with your environment out of interest and you get to know yourself much better.
Just like that rose you can and may remain yourself and you do not have to be disturbed by the outside world. There is nothing to be dissatisfied with.

Isn’t it blissful that there are fat cats, thin cats, gray cats and white cats, long-haired cats and short-haired cats? It makes the world colorful and choice is possible.
It does not matter to that cat, just like the rose. He laughs at it.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

Friday, May 11, 2018

Detoxifying, cleansing or purifying body and mind? Useless! A waste of time and money unless...

It is more and more common in the world to give on a regular base attention to detoxifying, cleansing or purifying the physical body and the mind. Worldwide more and more resorts offer wellness and detox packages including all kind of additional things like relaxation and massages.

Having about five years of experience in this healthcare work I see it as a temporary ‘shock’ for the body and for the mind only getting the insight the short program does not at all solve or manage the disturbances and troubles in our life created by the mind.

People who want to do this kind of programs first of all need to ask themselves the questions: What went wrong with and in my life I want to do this? If you cannot give a proper answer on this question and are willing to change things in life, not a single program will offer a sustainable effect.

This kind of programs offer you to work on the effect of things you started to do wrong in your life in relation to your body and your mind. The program helps you to, temporary, ‘Make up your room’ of body and only a little bit of your mind. Something really went wrong with you. And, by the way, be happy you recognize this because many men and women do not even feel this need (yet).

If you do not work first on finding the source of what went wrong so you want to join such a health program and are not willing to change your style of life, it is a waste of money and time and does not help to live healthier at the long run at all.

So what is this source?
If you look deeper you will find you started to disconnect with nature and started to follow the rat-race that people nowadays call life. Taking care of everybody and forgetting yourself. Living against nature. Trusting and believing friends, colleagues, marketing and social media that happiness is waiting for you in the future and health and beauty for sale so you need to spend money on that.

Think, for example, of your body and compare it with the body of an animal that is left in its natural habitat. The animal is never overweight, never tense except before fight, hunt or flight. It never eats or drinks what is not good for it. It has all the rest and exercise that it needs (no gym needed). It has the right exposure to the elements, to wind and sun and rain and heat and cold.

Most birds for instance wake up and start to be active at sunrise, singing their happy songs. If it’s getting dark they take the time to recharge. Their lifestyle is connected with the rhythm of the seasons. Most human beings live opposite. They often wake up late, not fully recharged and or ‘singing’ their happy song, and exhaust their bodies and minds till nighttime.   

Animals, like babies and little children, are not influenced by marketing, social media and negative world news that only can make them afraid and insecure. Animals are face-to-face connected to nature. To flora and fauna. Not suffering about the past or worrying about the future. Connected and living to the here and now.
That all is because the animal listens to his body and allows itself to be guided by the body’s wisdom.

And not only that. There is also this mind thing for an animal. The animal understands the art of “Do not disturb”.
What information do you really need to be happy and healthy now? To have a clear and empty mind? Be honest to yourself. Don’t you ‘serve’ your mind with an overkill of negativity and unnecessary information? All kind of things you cannot change or help or actually do not need at all?
Understand that you are the only one that is willing to let these things steal your inner peace and rest and toxify your mind. Are you the manager of your mind?

Compare this all with our own foolish cunningness. If your body could speak, what would it say to you? Observe the greed, the ambition, the vanity, the desire to show off and to please others, the guild that drives you to ignore the voice of your body while you chase after objectives set by your ego.

A healthier life? Change in a sustainable way your lifestyle to connect with nature again. Unlearn your body and mind the unhealthiness brought by your environment, marketing and desires. If you are really in to do this… it’s worth as well to do a detox program.  

Do not let a fashion trend only temporarily disrupt your unhealthiness.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.




Friday, May 4, 2018

Encouragement policy. Stop working earlier. "It was the salvation of my life".

We grow up with the idea that we must continue working until the so called retirement age. We do not even ask ourselves where that so-called must comes from and whether it is true.

Maybe not yet totally money and full-pension driven, we trudge on from what is assumed to be 'normal'. Our environment tells us that we have to, because we know we have better and better health care, live healthier lives (I wonder with so much stress if that is really the case?),and die later and later. What many see as the future period of enjoyment, has to wait a bit longer. You may wonder how long and especially at what stage of your life (and with which health) that enjoyment could still be and / or allowed.

Discouragement policy.
If you want to stop working earlier, generally is strongly discouraged. If you want to stop earlier you get a huge discount (it cost you a lot of money) on your future pension. I have this experience and still…Last week I received a message from my pension-fund that the calculation age for pension will be raised to 68 years. Reason? Yes indeed, because we are getting older... 

Now I say that stopping work earlier was the salvation of my life, that discount of more than 60% on my pension I take with a smile on behalf of a totally new Life (with a capital L). And if tomorrow for me the sun did not rise, I am more than happy and grateful that my ‘misfortune’ granted me the ‘fortune’ of living a different ‘rich’ life and retrospection. The insight to choose for Life, enjoyment, otherwise (deeper and wider) growth and sharing instead of (even) more stress, fighting against rules, regulations and unwillingness and almost certainly know a heart attack at a younger age than now.

Do you work to live or live to work? Is your work still your mission and passion? What about the balance work - private life? How long does your life actually last? How 'rich' do you want to be, remain or perhaps become? Are you aware that you cannot and will not take anything of that 'wealth' with you at ‘Ocean view’ time, the end, at all?

In 2010 I got a one-sided traffic accident. The, at first thought and sight ‘misfortune’ I spoke about before. A blackout in the Dutch Westerschelde tunnel. During a recovery period of 13 months, I still feel this recovery is actually still going on and I will never have the endurance and strength I ever had before, a very strong burn-out was discovered. 13 Months a fight with myself to come back on stage. At the helm of what I saw as 'my' organization and 'my' employees, with the beautiful work I did to continue. However, I was totally out of balance and exhausted.

My passion was, after reaching my pension, to live and start a different life in Asia. To live my dream. With many people I already shared that idea many years before I got my accident. Talking about it made me happy. From my father I learned the statement: “As a member of the Captijn family, we finish what we start”. A great statement, thought and approach. However, I did not understand till the time of my accident I was already finished on the path of organizational change and did not notice it myself.

13 Months of recovery (and four medical specialists) gave me the insight of who I really am and what to do (find and follow my purpose and mission) in the next period of my life. Already at a young age I did not see my future as a babysitter and taxi driver of and for my grandchildren (which I do not have until today). There is nothing wrong with that. However, it is nothing for me.

I found it and totally changed my life and lifestyle. I started to study again in relation to the purpose of my life. Last month I even got my degree as Kundalini Awareness Yoga instructor. Doing meditation and yoga on a daily base. Sharing my insights and understanding on internet to help people and situations to come into flow again. 

And all those worries about the future, and whether change is possible, and about all my so called responsibilities, and the financial 'loss' that you could have... It worked out it was all a waste of time and energy. Telling me I had no or at least insufficient faith and trust in myself, my life path and in divine.

And yes, some people who check the internet find a most wonderful story of the amount of money I got after I stopped working from my former employer will say. Easy talk. 
I waited on my balcony for a year for that money I should get mentioned in the media. The only thing that arrived was an excuse letter of the political board about wrong information my former employer shared with the media. Happy I am the only person that knows the right and real story. Nothing to be ashamed of and just only a pity that there has never been any rectification. 

At some point in your life you ask yourself questions like: Who am I? What do I really want? What do I want to do with the rest of my life? How do I turn the experiences from my past into lessons for the future? What is 'rich' for me (a rich man can be poor and a poor man rich)? What about loving and especially loving myself? Do I take care in a proper and good way for myself (and I don’t get me wrong not in a material way)?

My encouragement policy has become to inspire people to see and experience not to wait too long to follow their dreams, to stop doing things they do not like doing anymore (a waste of (life)time, loss of quality and negative influence on health) or doing things not related to their life purpose. Continuing this kind and type of work help them to stay in the vicious circle to make themselves mentally and often physically more and more ill. In spite of the overall better healthcare. Do you want to live a less longer life (so less pension has to be paid? Go on!).
And if you are still very happy with your present job and your work/private life balance is great... who am I to give you the idea to stop? You never have to count the days till your pension as many people do. 

Full retirement pension in general you get in a late phase of your life. Lots of time a short period of enjoyment. A phase of which you do not know the length. Do not drown yourself in general excuses and 'accepted values ​​and norms' of your environment. Make your own choice (Once you become fearless, life becomes limitless). With that choice you not only make yourself but also the world around you, to start with your beloved relatives, the most happy.

After all, big chance you mentally and physically are still well (or at least much better/healthier), more shining and active, and even better available and connected with really important things in your life. It is called LIVING life before it is too late.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.



Friday, April 27, 2018

Insight to get understanding of cultural differences (2)

This is part two of sharing some insights to get more understanding of cultural differences. 

Eating and drinking are social group activities in Thailand and Laos, particularly in rural villages. Were in The West there is much more an isolated eating culture in the East and for sure in Thailand there is a group eating culture.

When eating, lengthy social ‘shit chat’ is not the norm as we often have in the West. The topics of conversation are relatively limited and a lot of time has to do with what you are eating or drinking or about family related things.

Food plays a central role in the life of Thai people. They tend to eat three meals a day, but with lots of snacking in between. Whenever I drive on my scooter to Mae Rim or Chiang Mai, day and night food sellers are working selling a wide variety of actually always fresh grilled, baked, cooked, steamed or (deep)fried food. Rice or sticky rice always is the main dish.
It is nice to see many Westerners or other tourist do not eat food prepared on the street. Their home doctors and the internet advise them not to do. Actually this is a shame because it’s the cheapest and most healthy food you can find. This food selling is the primary job of this ‘shop’ owners. If there ever is something wrong mouth to mouth ‘marketing’ will be responsible they have to close their ‘business’ so no income… I invite everybody to try, taste and eat the more than delicious (and cheap) street food.

The food is made with many ingredients that Westerners are not so familiar with, such as lemon grass, tamarind, galangal, and of course lots of red hot chilies that give the food such a tremendous depth of taste and spiciness.

In many parts of rural Thailand people also enjoy eating a wide variety of food made up from wildlife caught in the fields, waterholes, rivers and lakes. Insects and ant eggs are specialties.

In families the food is usually prepared and cooked outside even if the house has an inside kitchen (most houses in the rural parts don’t). One or two small cooking stoves (as shown on the picture) using charcoal and/or wood is used to cook the food.

Food ingredients are invariably very fresh as I told before. Having just been picked or killed that day. Ingredients such as chicken and fish are normally killed just prior to cooking.
During my visit to the sister of my girlfriend in Laos we got in the evening chicken soup (I want to be honest I have never taste such a delicious soup in my life before). The food preparation (killing the chicken) was done in my sight. There where I did not want to see the slaughter of two huge water buffalos and three big pigs in sight of me as preparation for the wedding party, now I could not choose to miss this ritual. Here it’s very normal and part of life. I grow up totally divorced from the food raising and killing process. 
The sensitivity shown by me, also with other animals during that week, was not really understood and brought a lot of fun talk.

Eating (and drinking) is generally eaten on a large slightly raised (In Laos the chickens and ducks walked underneath) platform made of wood and bamboo. On that platform, mostly covered with a reed floor mat, the food is placed on a metal round again slightly raised big plate. Each person has his/her own bowl and utensils (spoon and fork and sometimes chopsticks, no knife).

Enough for this week.



Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.



Friday, April 20, 2018

Insight to get understanding of cultural differences (1)

Joining a wedding party in the rural part of Laos, and having more and more insight of countryside life in Northern Thailand as well, once more made me clear that cultural differences have a lot to do with our programming. And because of this, the understanding of cultural differences with our willingness to open our mind(set) and to be curious instead of judgmental. Our truth is not the truth but only a truth.

One of the things that strikes you when you visit or live in rural Thailand and Laos is how many parties start at the crack of dawn, and the duration of these events. Some parties last three or more days! (Songkran, Thai/Lao New Year, we just celebrated, took 4 – 5 days at our place).

Parties tend to be huge, the wedding party in Laos we joined had over 1000 guests. Catering for hundreds of people, all requiring food and drinks (the whole day(s) in the West is a huge organization as well. Several companies are ‘specialized’ in that.

At our places Thai and Lao families and villagers show something about the remarkable nature that catering for guests on such a scale is done without any of stress, worry and nervous breakdowns that would accompany such a task in the West. No specialized companies involved in that. Family, friends and neighbors all pitch in to help, and the spirit that prevails in the planning, preparation and duration of the event is one of fun and enjoyment.

Food and drinks are shared. Bottles are for sharing amongst a group of drinkers and not for solo consumption. Therefore, for instance, if there are three people and three bottles of beer, the etiquette is that one bottle of beer is opened first and shared out with the other two people. When the first bottle is finished, the second bottle is opened and shared before opening the third. You do not open all three bottles at once and give one to each person. The host adds ice and beer to each glass and tops up the glasses regularly.

Going to a restaurant you order food you like. No problem. You only need to be aware that everyone joining the dinner can (and will) taste ‘your’ dish that will work out not to be ‘your’ dish but only one of ‘group dishes’ provided on your table (or sitting mat).

While heavy drinking is common on party occasions, loud or overly exuberant behavior is not. Although the people here are very fun loving, a number of very important values dictate acceptable behavior. Boisterous drinking behavior in public shows both a lack of politeness and consideration for others, as well as a lack of discipline and order. Consequently, social drinking tends to be a quiet reserved affair compared to some of the more rowdy drinking we see in the West.

Next week more,


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.



Friday, April 13, 2018

Wedding party in Laos

A good friend of mine got an invitation to join on April 6th a wedding in Laos. The sister of her together with her husband and children live in Laos for over twenty years already. A nephew of them invited me to join with her the wedding party as well. We decided to join the party and visit her family for one week.

A total new experience in a total different culture and without any knowledge of Lao language for me. Being the only foreigner as part of a celebration with all together more than 1000 guests. No possibility not to be seen, being the longest person of the party as well with 1.91 cm, bald and different face and clothes. And believe it or not, I did not feel a stranger at all. Totally accepted and lots of fun.

I did not join the traditional and cultural slaughter of two big water buffalos and three pigs the day in advance of the party. It takes for me some time to adapt to this different culture.

Next week I will write a bit more about the family tradition. At the picture already the wedding couple.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.

Friday, March 30, 2018

Happy Easter


Unfortunately this week and next week no blog.

For me exam time, an invitation for a wedding abroad and extra activities for and at Easter.

I wish you a Happy Easter.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.



Friday, March 23, 2018

Triptych happy, healthy, HOLY (really and truly to life) (3)

This is the third part of my Happy, Healthy, Holy (really and truly to life) triptych.

Every aspect of life has an enlightened, efficient, and effective way to do and to live it. Yogi Bhajan studied and mastered this technical and spiritual knowledge in India, and brought this gift in the sixties to the West.
One of the first things that Yogi Bhajan taught is that it’s the birthright of every human being to be healthy, happy, and holy (really and truly to life).

The Healthy, Happy and Holy lifestyle gives us a blueprint for building a healthy, happy, and holy life.
There’s a yogic art and science to all aspects of human life. This lifestyle—the Kundalini Yoga lifestyle—is a yoga and lifestyle for everybody.

The purpose of all our efforts is simply to extend your awareness in your consciousness so you can have this foundation in experience and a base in positive habits. Then you can smoothly plan your life to any extent you like. You can radiate creativity and Infinity in all aspects of your life. That is the practical result of yoga. It is the capacity and right to live a healthy, happy, and holy life. That is why we called our yoga family Happy, Healthy and Holy.”

Yogi Bhajan –

This week’s blog some words of me about: HOLY (REALLY AND TRULY TO LIFE):

Holy is another name for sacred. Sacred means revered due to sanctity and is generally a state associated with divinity and considered worthy of spiritual respect or devotion. It can have associations with religion but this is not at all necessary. 

Most people, if they enter a so called ‘sacred’ space or environment feel a different, sometime serene energy. A different connection. Feeling of peace and light. Sometimes even initiating emotion and devotion. Maybe even without knowing anything more or deeper about it they feel there is ‘more’ between heaven and earth.

As a stretcher carrier for instance I have been many times to Lourdes, a pilgrimage in the South of France. It is said ‘wonders appear’ there. In my opinion they really appear. Especially between people who see and experience there is even more suffering than they experience in their own life. It makes them serene, understanding, and connected to life.

Really and truly to life has everything to do with this holy concept. To accept who and what you are. A unique creature, human being. It invites you to be and to live who and what you are and to fulfill your purpose in life. Be yourself. Grow by sharing your uniqueness. The world is waiting for just and only that as a heroes journey. Don’t try to be somebody else, don’t believe marketing, live really and truly in life who YOU are.

Everybody else is already taken…


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.



Friday, March 16, 2018

Triptych happy, HEALTHY, holy (really and truly to life) (2)

This is the second part of my Happy, Healthy, Holy (really and truly to life) triptych.

The main thing in life is to stay healthy, the main thing is to not get sick. Not have diseases. Disease is the medicine of suffering and insecurity. 

The main problem of today is stress. The stress of relationships, the stress of economics, the stress of your environment. It is hard to change or to do something on what’s going on in the outside world. But you can do something on yourself, on your body, your mind and the connection with your soul. If you can control, so manage, yourself, you are in control.

The idea is, if we can control our body and especially the little monkey in your mind, then our instinct is going to tell us what to go to do. We create a connection with the soul and with our purpose instead of not listening to our soul and do what our surrounding systems ask us to do. Lots of times we do not like to do those things if we look deeper into ourselves.

It is all a matter to open yourself to listen to the teacher within yourself. Your own instinct, your own intuition, your irreplaceable own soul. You start to work with intuition rather than impulse. You try to develop the intuitive mind. And in order to develop the intuitive mind you have to learn how to shut the mind off.

We are always focused on what is going on in the outside world and not with what is going on with and in ourselves (focus on the navel, the third eye, the breathing as an example).

Every aspect of life has an enlightened, efficient, and effective way to do and to live it. Yogi Bhajan studied and mastered this technical and spiritual knowledge in India, and brought this gift in the sixties to the West.
One of the first things that Yogi Bhajan taught is that it’s the birthright of every human being to be healthy, happy, and holy (really and truly to life).

The Healthy, Happy and Holy lifestyle gives us a blueprint for building a healthy, happy, and holy life.
There’s a yogic art and science to all aspects of human life. This lifestyle—the Kundalini Yoga lifestyle—is a yoga and lifestyle for everybody.

The purpose of all our efforts is simply to extend your awareness in your consciousness so you can have this foundation in experience and a base in positive habits. Then you can smoothly plan your life to any extent you like. You can radiate creativity and Infinity in all aspects of your life. That is the practical result of yoga. It is the capacity and right to live a healthy, happy, and holy life. That is why we called our yoga family Happy, Healthy and Holy.”

Yogi Bhajan –

This week’s blog some words of me about Health:

Talking about health in general, in my opinion, you only can do in a holistic way. Health has to do with the personal right balance in this holistic approach. The World Health Organization (WHO) defined human health as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. An alternative approach focuses on avoiding definitions has been conceptualized as the ability to adapt and self-manage when individuals and communities face physical, mental or social challenges.

That’s all nice but what is holistic health for me? Once I used this explanation during several classes of the so called Fitness Bootcamp programs at the place where I live.

Feeling healthy has to do with being fit, happy, wise and free.
Holistic health is the whole picture where everything matters. And when everything is well taking care of, your physical body, your mind, your spirit, your emotions, your social environment, all of you must all going well.
So life flows well!

To take a holistic approach means exploring the many varied components of health like a holistic medicine.
An integrated combination of: Diet, attitude, rest, exercise, style (lifestyle).
True and lasting happiness comes when you put all the many puzzle pieces of your life together, without neglecting any important segment of your life.

But when something is not paid attention to. When something is ignored life does not go well. So it is really looking at the whole picture. The whole you. And making sure that every part of you gets enough attention (what does not mean the same amount of attention). Thus is not neglected. So you can have a whole happy life.

All your health parts must be in order.
In many ways, we are like a luxury jet. As long as everything is working properly, we soar through life enjoying the ride. However, if we neglect key components like the engine or the electrical wiring or don't account for changes from aging, take time for refueling, tutoring our pilots and crew members, stay in permanent contact with control towers, we slow down. We may even crash. And we'll soon start to think: this isn't how life is supposed to be.

Balance can be the key.
The key to success, health and happiness, of course is balance and take enough time to recharge energy instead of only giving away. Those who devote hours to keeping their bodies in top physical condition, but jump from one relationship to the next are off balance. Just like others who boast very successful businesses yet suffer from being a workaholic, do not have sufficient real rest without disturbance (sleeplessness), don’t eat well (healthy) and/or suffer from signs of burn-out. For them, financial success isn't freeing at all.
When you are only running in the rat race (for you called ‘life’) being connected with the past or the future you are not aware of any present the present moment can give you…

The past is history, the future a mystery, the present moment can be a present.  A rich man can be poor but a ‘poor’ man can be rich. So try to be and live aware and mindful. Maybe meditation can help you with this and give you more in-sight. 

Tune in and give your life a tune up.
Work on optimal living. That’s taking care for yourself first and to make choices!
When you, in a holistic way, are not in a 100% good shape, you cannot be there for 100% for the world around you.
So there are healthy and unhealthy ways to face the inevitable challenges that come your way. Try to find the best (holistic) way for you to hurdle those obstacles while remaining physically, psychologically, and spiritually healthy throughout your life's journey. When this happens, life is good! Enjoy the here and now. Enjoy the journey! 

  • Physical: Good nutrition, exercise. Deal with and be aware of the 5 senses: feel/taste/see/hear/smell.
  • Mental: Your thinking mind and free balance (meditation probably can be a key). 
  • Emotional: Has to do with inner feeling, with letting go, forgiveness/cleansing.
  • Spiritual: Has to do with the connection with the earth, with having versus giving, with getting (receiving) and also with open up for creativity.
  • Causal / environmental: Is about your behavior, your pattering (habits), and healthy environment/biotope.

Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.






Friday, March 9, 2018

Triptych HAPPY, healthy, holy (really and truly to life) (1)

Happy Chinese Guest Olivia with my happy dog Kadhow 
I am nearly finished with my teacher training to become a certified Kundalini Yoga teacher. Can you imagine, starting to do such a training at the young age of sixty? 
My dad became a (Hata) Yoga teacher at the age of 54 and reached very healthy and still practicing yoga the age of 93. I cannot guarantee that yet and still. There is something to reach ;). 

For me this training was and is a wonderful experience and introduction to a much more free and even more happy, healthy and 'holy' (really and truly to life) life.

People who know me already, know one of the things in the purpose/mission/calling of my life is to grow by sharing. Briefly, this calling compels me to use my background and growth experiences in becoming a catalyst for change:  My change process facilitates transformation into people to get (new) growth and renewed flow.

So out of the experiences of this Yoga training it’s nice and easy for me to share some new insights with you. 

That's why today I start with a triptych: "Happy, Healthy, Holy (really and truly to life)".

Every aspect of life has an enlightened, efficient, and effective way to do and to live it. Yogi Bhajan studied and mastered this technical and spiritual knowledge in India, and brought this gift in the sixties to the West.
One of the first things that Yogi Bhajan taught is that it’s the birthright of every human being to be healthy, happy, and holy (really and truly to life).

The Healthy, Happy and Holy lifestyle gives us a blueprint for building a healthy, happy, and holy life.
There’s a yogic art and science to all aspects of human life. This lifestyle—the Kundalini Yoga lifestyle—is a yoga and lifestyle for everybody.

“The purpose of all our efforts is simply to extend your awareness in your consciousness so you can have this foundation in experience and a base in positive habits. Then you can smoothly plan your life to any extent you like. You can radiate creativity and Infinity in all aspects of your life. That is the practical result of yoga. It is the capacity and right to live a healthy, happy, and holy life. That is why we called our yoga family  Happy, Healthy and Holy.”

- Yogi Bhajan

This week’s blog some words of me about Happiness:

"Naturally, the sour taste of lemon cannot be tasted unless it is pressed. In the same way, when the human life has never faced any difficulty or trouble, it will not find the way of happiness and success."

Several times I already paid attention to this word. Looking deeply into this word out of Buddhism you can give the word the basic explanation: “Peace of mind”. For me so far this fits the best in relation to my experiences here with guests as well in my private life.
The Kundalini Yoga teacher training again brought me into contact with that word and it’s wonderful to dig even deeper. To explore more.

Actually very few people know and no one can tell you what happiness is because happiness cannot be described.

What makes you happy or unhappy is not the world or the people around you, but the thinking in your head. There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs in your head. Your programming is so strong and the pressure of society, culture, even religion and lots of times marketing is so intense that you are literally trapped into perceiving the world in this distorted kind of way. You are brainwashed and not even aware of it.

The search for happiness in the world outside of you is wasting your energy. You can stop trying to cure baldness or build up an attractive body or change your residence or job or community or even your personality. Do you realize that you could change every one of these things and still be unhappy?
And deep down you know this is true but still you waste your effort and energy trying to get what cannot make you happy.

Understand your false believes and they will drop. Then you will know the taste of happiness. If people want happiness so badly, why don’t they attempt to understand their false beliefs?

Instead of living a life of serenity and fulfillment they doomed themselves to a life of frustration, anxiety, worry, insecurity, suspense and tension. For a few fleeting moments the world does, indeed, yield their efforts and rearranges itself to suit their desires. They become briefly happy. Or rather, they experience a flash of pleasure. But that’s not happiness at all for it is accompanied by underlying fear that at any moment it will slip out of control.

If you wish to attain to lasting happiness you must be ready to leave all your clinging to your attachments. Clinging to people, clinging to possessions. Not by renouncing them or giving them up but rather by seeing them for the nightmare the clinging many times is.  

An attachment isn’t a fact. It’s a belief, a fantasy in your head, acquired through programming. You have become a prisoner to them. Almost every negative emotion you experience is the direct outcome of an attachment. Get rid of their grip over you. Their power to hurt you, out of your darkness, your fear, your unhappiness. To stop clinging and thus you destroy their capacity to hurt you.

In order to be genuinely happy there is one and only one thing you need to do; get de-programmed, get rid of those attachments.

Then at last you will experience that mysterious state of abiding happiness and peace. And you will understand how true it is that everyone who stops clinging to whatever it is gains more bliss.


Gangey Gruma (Frans Captijn)

Captijn InsightCatalyst in developing tranquility & in-sight to get in a sustainable way real connection, purpose, pleasure and flow in life, love, family, business, career and work again.