"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or a small act of caring. All having the potential to change a day, a week, a month, even a lifetime."
(Quote I got a short while ago from a good acquaintance Arnaud Nilwik from The Netherlands)
This quote for me was the ‘spark’ to write this week my blog about touch.
Touch is one of the sensations processed by the somatosensory system giving rise to touching behavior (source: Wikipedia).
Ever thought about this idea? Just take some time to look more deeply. Watching, smelling, tasting and hearing are all touching.
Thinking about the art of listening for instance. Hearing is a sensation of sound waves travel through the outer ear, impacts (touch) the eardrum and causes to vibrate. Modulated by the middle ear it is transmitted to the nerves transmitting information to the brain, where it is registered as sound.
So you can see hearing as touching. And touching is connecting with energy flow.
As Wikipedia mentions, you can be touched physically and mentally / emotionally. Both in a positive or negative way. All having to do with the intention or expression of something (a person, animal, thing, situation) in the outer world on you.
When Abraham Maslow studied happy people, one of the things he determined was that they all had what he called highly potentiated lives. They could deeply enjoy the smell of coffee being brewed first thing in the morning if that’s what was in the room, or the sound of toast being buttered. When their child took their hand it wasn’t just a sensation, it filled up their whole (well-)being. Happy people had a “high porosity to aliveness”. These people soaked up life.
We mistakenly think that touching - so watching, listening, smelling and tasting as well - occur on the periphery of our self, are a kind of surface things. But truthfully each surface stimulus travels far into the most hidden interior landscapes of our self. An integrated energetic body, mind and even soul connection takes shape.
The necessity of nurturing our senses and play with inner and outer caring and healing energy is very clear when we are at our youngest. Slightly older we typically found ways to build a huge, varied diet of using our senses and energy connection into our lives. Feeling inside the frequency, textures and intensities of this constant, rich field of contact.
As we grow up we exchange this banquet of physical contact for…. well, often for very little.
We eroded our “body-mind-soul” connection. Caused by internal and/or external factors.
Internal we hear the voices of our - wanted or unwanted - guides in life / our programming. Or we protect / armor ourselves out of fear or not to be hurt (again).
External influences like culture, religion, habitat, ‘expected behavior’, living an unbalanced, chaotic lifestyle and lack of responsibility in using the social media and the internet, have their impact.
These causes gradually can have limited our ability to be present and to express and experience the essence of who we, fully and freely, really are and what we really want. We slowly become cut off from our feelings and the ability to experience our creative inner energy in a connected, joyful, loving flow.
For most of us growing up coincides with a reduction in the range and quality of our tactile life. Our diet of nurturing physical contact and dealing with energy thins out, narrows down.
Ask yourself: "How went my tactile day today so far?"
Touching (so actually being aware of the influences of all our senses) is main part of one of our regular workshops (Tantra journey of senses and energy). It’s remarkable to see how people release feathered and sparkling life energy full of unexpected potency and make themselves available for that what wants to 'show' itself.
It shows our senses and consciousness of energy could properly be regarded as instruments to deeply connect, to explore, and as a form of nutrition.
Overriding the harness of the known, allowing to explore what is possible, fearless entering a field of endless possibilities... goes beyond of what the head (thinking mind) can contain. Bringing the unconscious in the conscious elevating your quality of awareness. An interweaving of the energies of many levels of consciousness from the ordinary to the most intense. A path of integrating body, mind and soul. Realizing your full potential as a free unique human being.
Touch more in a positive way, with the right intentions, physically and/or mental / emotional.
Be open and willing to be touched. Explore to soak up life (again). Be aware of a kaleidoscope of (new) manifestations of intuitively feeling. Get a deeper and more meaningful connection with yourself and others. Redefine limitations and blockages of your mind, of body veils, body armoring and barriers.
Change someone’s day, week, month or even his/her lifetime using the positive power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or a small act of caring.
Encounter jewels of aliveness and energy in your existence.
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