Friday, November 18, 2016

Insomnia by the outcome of elections??? Stop it! Who is the master of your life?

The last days two guests came to me to explain why they could not join my early morning class and Dharma talk. Not necessary to give me an explanation. Everybody is free to join. It’s your holiday here with us you know? But still. They felt sad about it.

Both of them told me they could not get rest anymore and could not sleep in the night because of the outcome of the elections. Not only this two guest but also, being a member of the Chiang Mai Expatsclub, I hear a lot of people suffering about this.

My blog for this week was already ready but I will publish it next week to make space for this theme.

Suffering and insomnia has to do with the things you create in your mind. The feeling, caused by your sub- or pré conscious mind has everything to do with our past experiences in life. A feeling in relation to fear and thinking not being able to handle new situations to come.

So you create stories and situations, other people are very willing to even help you with this process, and you start trying to find how to deal with it. Be aware, you only think this situations will appear and out of fear you create plan ‘A’, ‘B’ and ‘B+’ to prepare yourself for things that are NOT going to happen this way. This drains your energy and create more fear. It helps you to get away of enjoying life, it creates suffering and not at all peace of mind.

If you cannot trust yourself, who else can you trust. Thinking of wars for instance. Every decennium or even a shorter period somewhere in the world they are. New terrorist attacks are waiting and for sure will come somewhere again. But are you willing to get insomnia by all of this and especially because of the outcome of elections?

Once I read a wonderful story told by Allen Wilson Watts (6 January 1915 – 16 November 1973)

The Story of the Chinese farmer:

Once upon a time there was a Chinese farmer, whose horse ran away. And all the neighbors came around to commensurate that evening, “So sorry to hear your horse has ran away. That’s too bad.” And he said, “Maybe.”

The next day the horse came back, bringing seven wild horses with it, and everybody came around in the evening and said, “Oh, isn’t that lucky. What a great turn of events. You’ve now got eight horses.” And he said, “Maybe.”

The next day his son tried to break one of these horses and ride it and was thrown and broke his leg. And they all said, “Oh, dear that’s too bad.” And he said, “Maybe.”

The following day the conscription officers came around to recruit to force people into the army and they rejected his son, because he had a broken leg. And all the people came around and said, “Isn’t that great.” And he said, “Maybe.”

“The whole process of nature is a process of immense complexity and it is really impossible to tell whether something that happens in it is good or bad. Because you never know the consequences of the misfortune. Or, you never know the consequences of good fortune.”

You can ask yourself: “Who is the master of my life?” Are this your thoughts or is this you?
Do not create all stories that will never exist or do not exist yet.

You can totally trust yourself. You already showed in your life you have enough resilience to adapt to new situations if they arrive.

Live and enjoy life. Did worrying ever helped you already in life?

Stop it and get some sleep.

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

Captijn Insight“Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow in life and work. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.” 


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