Drop your masks! Better be yourself… ALWAYS!

How can it nevertheless be, that many people are not simply themselves? That is what I, many times hear and I feel it even more. At home they often act differently than when they are at work and/or even differently when they are in other places (maybe in a restaurant and/or networking). What actually is `being yourself’?



Now, while I did my training for Talent-coaching, I got more insight.

In your education you learn to adapt to your culture, the applying standards and values, the time and your surroundings. You learn, without even noticing, that you put on a mask or playing a role and  adapt to an external reality or community.

In Latin they use the word ‘Persona’. The way how you show yourself, with your mask or playing your role, to your environment and that is how you are seen (your appearance). The ‘persona’ often stands between the person who you really are and the outside (public) world. In everyday speech we call it ‘ your appearance’ or ‘your look’. After all behind your mask hides your true identity. Maybe you think that you’re environment doesn’t notice that you’re just acting, think twice…. Their feeling show differently. If you know that you’re keeping your “real self” secret, you also have to know that you are signaling (or radiate) unnatural energy. Many people in your neighborhood will see (or feel) that and pierce rapidly through that veil. Don't you do that yourself also almost infallible?

Your ‘I’ (Latin Ego) is  actually the centre of your wittingly activities like thinking, observing, feeling and your intuition. Your own identity is a very important feature of your ‘I’. Without ego there is no identity. But your ego is not the centre of your conscious and subconscious personality. That centre is called ‘Self’. Subconscious collective and personal experiences, feelings and facts are playing a distinguished role in this ‘Self’. Recognizing and acknowledging will be a intriguing ingredient of your personality.

By letting you subconscious mind ‘speak’ more often once in a while, you will get a treasure of information concerning who you are and what you are good at by nature. If you know that, why would you profile yourself still longer in affairs which don’t entirely belong to you and what you don’t like to  do? Why presenting yourself as someone else, if you can be YOU just who you are or can be?

If you bring your qualities and talents in a, for YOU, good consistency to full growth, you’ll beneficially start realizing YOURSELF and your mission (why and wherefore you’re on this planet). You accomplish, from out of your heart, your specific achievement and as a result, admit those of others as well. That process of development of your individuality is called individuation. You become personally aware. Becoming what you are in spirit. Simply be yourself in all circumstances. That will cost less energy, you have to think less, you don’t have to remember any longer or even write down everything you ever said in your different performances. And the best part… your environment… they knew it, in most of cases, anyway.

If you really know who YOU are, you can be very proud and there is nothing to be ashamed of or hide for. Why would you even consider acting in a role-play or adopting another role as that of your own?

Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight

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