We act on the basis of wrong perceptions nearly all
the time. Our thoughts are related to three things.
- Things we really see, hear, feel, smell or taste.
- Things we only create in our mind, our illusions.
- Things in between reality and illusions.
When we see a person walking in the street, or a new
colleague at our work often our first response in our mind is negative. We
immediately start with labeling. The man for instance is too fat, his or her
clothes are overdone, the lipstick of the woman is too red, too much make-up, etc.. Our response,
over all, is more unwholesome, negative than positive, contributing. Without even being aware we are
trained to do this.
Things we really see, hear, smell, taste or feel are
real for us. Most of the time they are part of a bigger reality we are not
aware of yet. So our perceptions are made out of that what we see and often are not
totally right or totally complete. When you look at a beautiful sunset, you may be quite sure that
you are seeing the sun as it is in that moment. A scientist will tell you that
the image of the sun that you see is the image of the sun from eight minutes
ago. Sunlight takes eight minutes to reach the earth from such a long distance.
Illusions are not true. Our mind does not know or
understand the difference between true or not true information. It starts creating all kind
of solutions basically to help us to stay safe and to survive. The same is
happening with things in between ‘reality’ and illusion.
An example. A man, still in love with his wife, whose wife for a couple of weeks is
at work abroad had a short Skype-call with her at the moment she seemed to be in a
restaurant. He discovered she was very happy having a dinner with a stranger,
another man. Her husband did not wanted to disturb her dinner so told her he
would call her back the next day. During the evening and night he created all kind of stories in his mind. About their relationship, what she was doing the rest of that evening and night, what made her so happy having dinner with that man, etc.. The next
day he heard from his wife it was the husband of her female colleague. They were so kind to invite her for dinner at that restaurant and she did not have the time to tell her husband because of his short call. At the moment he called her, her colleague just was paying the bill at the counter of the restaurant.
Our perceptions habitually are wrong. Our responses are
unwholesome. Together they even accumulate our feeling of suffering. Consuming
lots of energy, make us feel miserable, not trusting ourselves anymore, and even
creating insomnia.
We have to be very careful with our perceptions,
otherwise we will feel pain. A helpful thing is to make a note and put it on
the mirror in the bathroom with: “Are you sure?” and: “Even if you are sure,
check again!”
Often we have hurt ourselves, we created a hell for
ourselves and our beloved ones because of our perceptions. Are you sure of your
perception?
When you are angry, and you feel pain, try to take
some distance and inspect (look deeply) in the role of third person, observer, the content, the nature of your
perceptions. Your programming, your reflections, your reality (instead of the
reality), your response (out of personal hurt, jealousy or whatever else).
If you are capable of removing or changing the wrong perception,
peace and happiness will be restored in you, and you will be able to love and
connect in a better and right way with other people again.
Captijn Insight: “Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow in life and work. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.”
Frans Captijn
Host / Catalyst / Talenteer at Captijn Insight
Captijn Insight: “Catalyst in your process to new sustainable flow in life and work. Whether you are an individual, couple, team or an organization.”
captijninsight@gmail.com
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